not ready for marriage

[Nina85]

Re: not ready for marriage

@GoriLady

You icicle1 are making major assumptions about American girls… not all American girls are easy… Muslim girls aren’t the only type of religious girls who are chaste… I have Christian friends who are so hard core that they haven’t even held hands with their fiance before marriage… yes, in this and age!

I’m not assuming that the poster is a guy based on that comment. I have heard plenty of Pakistani people tell me that dating means “sex”. Most girls, even non-Muslim North American girls, don’t want to sleep around. They just want to be loved. They follow what they see in the media of being sexy and think that they need to be sexy and/or promiscuous to be loved. They have it all wrong but know that really deep down, they just want to be loved.

Agreed. We get pissed off when people make assumptions about us, so lets not make assumptions about others. And yes, western women tend to be more liberal then easterners when it comes having sexual relationships, but that does not make them sluts either. Most women, whether muslim, christian, jewish, atheist, american form relationships for the same reason: love and companionship. Some have sex and some dont. I say whatever floats your boat. And like many posters have explained here, some people are not ready do get married right off the bat. I personally would like to know the person I am getting married too. We need to have things in common. I need to know what his dreams and goals are and he needs to know mine. And while I have a good job now, I didnt just a few months ago. So financially speaking I am not ready and I would not get married to someone who isnt at least somewhat financially-work stable.
Finally, if someone wants to be in a relationship only to pass time or have sex (and trust me, most women do not), then so be it. You get to decide what you want for yourself. As long as you are comfortable with what you are doing and not being pressured or forced into it. I would say the same for someone talking about getting into a halal arranged marriage.Is it what YOU want? Then good, do it. And dont judge others.