you are not ready to get married for another 4 5 years and yet you are dating, why?
is it sex, or what??
if you like someone, who you have dated for a year and still you are NOT ready to marry him for another few years, what’s the point of dating? i can only think of sex or time pass. is 1 year not good enough to know someone?
since there are plenty of girls on GS who have dated for few years, more than one person b4 marriage or currently dating (came to that conclusion based on previous threads/msgs), please share your view?
and if you are dating, do you see your b/f in holy month?? do you fast/pray and date??
Lahori, you may not date. But going by the stereotypes and the oversimplified notions in your threads.......I think you yourself are far from being ready for marriage.
lol your thread definitely shows you're a guy...girls dont really have sex or date just for the hell of it (at least not muslim ones) i'm not talking about your non-muslim american casual girlfriend.
most muslim girls, if they do, they usually date cuz they actually genuinely like the guy...they may not be ready for marriage but if they're dating the guy they probably do eventually want to end up with the guy...
i'm pretty sure most muslim girls dont date just for the hell of it or as you describe "time pass". also it depends...what do you define as dating...i understand there are both girls and guys that flirt around with several different people for attention, but i believe most girls with a conscious stay away from that too....
Lahori, you may not date. But going by the stereotypes and the oversimplified notions in your threads.......I think you yourself are far from being ready for marriage.
haha i know i am not ready, i got long ways to go. even if i start thinking about it, it would take few years and hopefully by that time i'll be more mature, one can hope!
on the bright side, i got you to guide me to right path by the time i get married
now, mind giving me your views why certain girls are only interested in dating for years but are not ready for marriage?? if u don't want to get married for 5 years(random number), why look around to find a guy?? that's what i'm having trouble with.
lol your thread definitely shows you're a guy...girls dont really have sex or date just for the hell of it (at least not muslim ones) i'm not talking about your non-muslim american casual girlfriend.
most muslim girls, if they do, they usually date cuz they actually genuinely like the guy...they may not be ready for marriage but if they're dating the guy they probably do eventually want to end up with the guy...
i'm pretty sure most muslim girls dont date just for the hell of it or as you describe "time pass". also it depends...what do you define as dating...i understand there are both girls and guys that flirt around with several different people for attention, but i believe most girls with a conscious stay away from that too....
ok lets take sex outta the picture. why are certain girls only interested in dating for 5 years rather than marriage? if u are not ready, why date??
What if the guy and the girl are around the same age.....maybe they started dating in high school or college. And the guy can't really get engaged or married until he has a job......not a career taking orders at Taco Bell........but a real job? In a situation like that, the relationship exceed the 1 or even 2 year time-frame you have in mind.
Agree one shouldn't be in a relationship if he/she is absolutely ready to get married . But again usually ''need'' of a companion is way before than when you can actually have it .
You could meet someone, be drawn to them, fall in love (even if you weren’t planning to)…and even when you are FAR from being able to settle down. It would be more logical to enter a relationship when you know you are more able to commit, but timing isn’t always perfect…and doesn’t always go as we might have mapped it out in our heads. Emotions don’t always coincide with time.
As far as sex is concerned, it may or may not be a part of the relationship. And regarding sex…it is (and ideally should be) a mutual thing…and that said Lahori…again why should the question (in reference to sex and time pass) only be directed toward girls? That’s almost like saying that guys have no interest in sex and are not capable of stringing a girl along for time pass. Why only confine it to girls? Because it takes two individuals to make a relationship.
(YES! Thank God the rolling eyes emoticon is back!)
Lahori, you may not date. But going by the stereotypes and the oversimplified notions in your threads.......I think you yourself are far from being ready for marriage.
Agree..
Also Lahori, all the stuff u constantly pull girls up for such as dating and sex before marriage u do realise usually the guys are doing 10x as much..
You have a very stereotypical 'back home' view of the ways girls and boys can behave as if we should always come down harder on females..
I had a friend in uni who was senior to me, she had a boyfriend there for 4 yrs and they were about to graduate....they did have a physical relationship and everyone knew about it. So when I asked her when are they getting married...she told me they are not going to marry, the chances are very low that they will...they both knew this since they first began seeing each other but still carried on with it.
I don't think its right to be in that kind of a relationship when you are so sure you are not going to marry...it doesn't sound right, at least not morally...
In our family generally you get engaged and get plenty of time to get to know each other. I have a bit conservative take on the dating issue as far as my children wouuld go.. but I can see many people need to have an idea of what they are looking for in a mate. I think 5 years is a pretty long time to realize if this person is right for you or not.. Ofcourse, I am said to be a bit unmodern about my views in my family so I guess maybe these days people do like to date long time before considering marriage.
What if the guy and the girl are around the same age.....maybe they started dating in high school or college. And the guy can't really get engaged or married until he has a job......not a career taking orders at Taco Bell........but a real job? In a situation like that, the relationship exceed the 1 or even 2 year time-frame you have in mind.
This is the situation im in at the moment! my boyfriend doesnt have a stable enough job at the moment! in fact he doesnt have one at all! we have been together for 2 years...no sex! we both believe that sex is for AFTER marriage...with ur husband/wife..AFTER marriage! we arent getting married (iA) for another 4 to 5 years perhaps...which is fine by both of us :)
you are not ready to get married for another 4 5 years and yet you are dating, why?
is it sex, or what??
if you like someone, who you have dated for a year and still you are NOT ready to marry him for another few years, what's the point of dating? i can only think of sex or time pass. is 1 year not good enough to know someone?
since there are plenty of girls on GS who have dated for few years, more than one person b4 marriage or currently dating (came to that conclusion based on previous threads/msgs), please share your view?
and if you are dating, do you see your b/f in holy month?? do you fast/pray and date??
I am not sure what your definition of "dating" is...but I knew a few couples who "dated" for few years and than some got married some didn't, and no they did not have sex. One specific couple met in our university. They got to know each other, hung out a lot and were both interested in marriage, but did not want to approach the parents until the guy had something substantial to offer...plus some job or promise of before sending rishtha to the girl's side. It made sense. In a few cases for whatever reasons, it didnt work out due to family rejecting guy/girl etc.
