Not Meant to Be?

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Re: Not Meant to Be?

@PyariCgudia

I just turned 29. I’m at a busy work-place, and before I know it, I’ll be 30 and probably still single.

I know girls who didn’t get rishtas, and then got married in their 30’s.

If it makes you feel any better, just met this one girl who looks like a supermodel, has an awesome job, awesome personality, spunk, lots of good character, and she is 30, now hitting 31, and barely any rishtas for her.

A lot of it is location…some of us live where there are not many desis nearby. A lot of it is social contacts as you were growing up…even then, I never considered marrying some of the guys I know from growing up honestly - there just wasn’t a match.

And you’ve been busy studying, and getting your career together. Focus on that - lots of young desi lawyers out there today. In chicago, I know, there is a desi south asian lawyer organization - maybe contact them about events and even fly out and meet them when they’re doing something interesting.

Have you tried ISNA? I’ve heard of a lot of marriages happening through there too.

You’re 24!!! Chin up. I’m 29, still single, very angry, very annoyed, but oh well, nothing I can do about it.

There are a lot of douche’s out there; don’t settle, lest you become another GS gossip story.

I live in the US too and this seems to be a common issue. Either there’s no desis in the area, no desis that are worth it (I went to college with a HUGGGGEEEE muslim population but I was either too conservative/too modern/too fobby/too western), the guys/girls aren’t educated or have that dakya noosi mentality of no woman working, etc. I’m 23 and I have anxiety about it ONLY because I’ve seen so many problems that my friends have. All of them / their families have been looking but have been unsuccessful. The first one in our group is finally getting married after 3 yrs of rishtas.