I have browsed some threads recently, it seems people don’t like the gifts they are given, and then harbour negative feelings towards those people who bothered to give them a gift, just because they didn’t like the gift??
what kind of manners are these?? least one can do is accept the gesture of kindness from someone, instead of ranting about how the gift is cheap, not according to taste or whatnot.
why people do this??
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My thoughts exactly!!!!!!! If someone is even something you cant be caught dead in, the least you can do is not get upset over it. Its the thought that counts.
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^but what causes this ''behaviour'' ??
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some of hte people who rant have negative feelings because they see the kind of thought/effort that is put behind a gift. when you know a person well enough, you can usually gauge their intentions.
If someone gifted you a face transplant, wouldn't you be insulted? :)
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It's greediness..
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what kind of thought/effort??
i am sorry, but i don’t get the reference of face plant as a gift…
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Unfortunately, we believe that the 'gift giver' owes us something. Otherwise, how would you explain this ungracious behaviour? It's the thought that should count, but a lot of people just focus on the material value of the gift.
Personally speaking, I am highly offended when you give something to someone and their response is, 'iski kya zaroorat thi'. And once or twice, people actually refused to accept a gift. To be quite honest, it's very hurtful. Even if you don't like the gift, why not just keep it, instead of acting like a complete...
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What Sara was trying to say was that the people who don’t like the gifts they receive might not like the gifts because they think the person giving them might have malicious thoughts… and her example… If someone gifted you a face transplant, would you be happy that you’re getting a free face transplant, or would you be insulted and think someone thinks you’re ugly.
It’s the point of view of the receiver. Assumptions vs logical conclusions based on history of the giver.
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What Sara was trying to say was that the people who don't like the gifts they receive might not like the gifts because they think the person giving them might have malicious thoughts... and her example... If someone gifted you a face transplant, would you be happy that you're getting a free face transplant, or would you be insulted and think someone thinks you're ugly.
It's the point of view of the receiver. Assumptions vs logical conclusions based on history of the giver.
The prob is a lot of times people on here don't seem to like gifts because they're snobs and are overly nitpicky about anything they use or wear. Not much can be done about that. Kuch log ke dil bahut chote hote hain. It's a shame if you receive a gift and rather than being happy that someone has been thoughtful enough to buy them something, all you can thing about is that the gift isn't to your taste.
if it's not something I need or like, it goes directly to the donation box and out in batches. I don't have to like it, or keep it.
Only so many vases and serving bowls we can have around house. :-)
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dont know why people do this but we should see the love behinde that gft and accept it
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What Sara was trying to say was that the people who don't like the gifts they receive might not like the gifts because they think the person giving them might have malicious thoughts... and her example... If someone gifted you a face transplant, would you be happy that you're getting a free face transplant, or would you be insulted and think someone thinks you're ugly.
It's the point of view of the receiver. Assumptions vs logical conclusions based on history of the giver.
ok...fair enough.....could you give an example of a gift with malicious intent behind it?? (please don't give an example of grenade/landmine or something :D)......i mean some sort of real life example of an ill-intentioned gift??
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Hello CM 
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Its absolutely OK to not like the gift but there is no need/reason to have negative feeling towards the person who gave the gift.
Everyone has their own taste, ideas and budget. If I get something that I do not need or like, I accept it thankfully and give it as gift to someone I think can make better use of it.
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I have been on the receiving end of when someone did not like a gift. It was 2 suits we gave to my MIL from me and family during the wedding ceremonies. She didn't mention anything about the gifts we gave during the ceremonies, was a little stuck up about it, and ended up giving two of the suits we gave her to her relation. Basically the lady relation did mine and hubby's dawat straight after the wedding, and I specifically remember after dinner she handed her a gift bag and i was quite eager to see what she had selected. The lady opened the bag and laid out the gifts on the dinning table in front of all and I was in so much shock when I saw the suits which me and my mum had taken weeks to select just sitting there. Felt extremely hurt, and my MIL did not care if I had seen it or not and acted very oblivious to it all. I did however mention it to hubby afterwards, but he just shrugged it off like everything else that happens lol. Didn't mention it again as did not want to create any animosity or ill feelings by bringing it up so quickly into marriage. Okay fair enough giving it to another for better use, but not in front of the person who gifted it to u in the first place lol! :/
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oh wait..nvm.
Yeah I saw that happen several times. the aunty was given certain clothing and jewelry, and that jewelry was given away at another wedding, and the clothign was actually given RIGHT BACK TO THE PERSON THAT GAVE IT TO HER!
If that's not b*tchy, well.....i dunno what else to say.
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I know one girl who either sells or returns to the shop everything that people give her as gifts. Her excuse is 'oh but people buy me ugly things, they don't know my taste'
Ungrateful wench.
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another interesting way of accepting a gift 
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I specifically tell ppl not to buy me gifts. If they do, they knw I will exchange it for something I can use, if I dnt like them. No point in getting expensive gifts which r going to waste.
Its all very well to say that it's the thought that matters, but keeping something which u r never gna use is worse, complete waste of money.
I never regift either for the specific reasons mentioned above and it's plain rude.
And if I have to buy a gift I ask what the person may need or prefer and always get a gift receipt so they can exchange it if they wish.