What does it mean when a desi man shows loads of interest to talk in person but reads facebook messages but doesn’t respond to the messages. Spoke to him three times in person and he even wanted to keep in touch the last time we saw each other but I didn’t get the chance to give him my contact information because I was in a rush. i’m shy and it takes me a while to think through if I want to know the person further.
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May be he lives in a real world.
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how long its been since you last communicated? 15 min?
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I don't know how much this would apply to him though as for myself, if I'm writing something to someone (apart from text messages or other real-time stuff), it takes me a while to formulate responses. So I'll take a while to actually write something (could be hours or even days before I end up responding).
On the other hand I've found that when people are supposed to email me, they'll take a long time.
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Maybe he likes Face to Face communication.
Baby girl FB or mobile calls etc are extremely unhealthy for a relationship. Didn't your mum tell u that?
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hayeN? GG, i thought you were married...lol
be persistent...tell him what you have in your heart. iA...chips will fall in place! :) mubaarkaaN :)
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hayeN? GG, i thought you were married...lol
of course you did...thats why you left her alone :D
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lol he is probably like me. I don’t reply to text to fb messages to almost anyone even though I read it. Idk i just don’t feel like typing on iPhone
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of course you did...thats why you left her alone :D
hahaha...blessing in disguise...eh? :D
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If he really wanted to “keep in touch” he has you on fb, he could easily message you and ask for your number. The fact that he doesn’t speaks volumes and as harsh as it sounds, he’s not even replying to your messages. I think he just doesn’t wanna be mean to you face to face and puts on a fake persona. I could be wrong. #my2cents](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=my2cents)
Silence has a meaning.
I can clearly tell u..this fella isnt interested...
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It could be what the above posters said, but it's hard to say.
I think if you are the one initiating the face to face meet ups then there is a problem here, he might be a nice guy but might not be interested and just doesn't know how to tell you straight.
Or, if he's always meeting you face to face but just is slow at replying on social media, it could just be that he doesn't use it much and is a rare case of not being addicted to his phone. If I were you, I would take a step back and see if this friendship is something that he truly values. If he makes an effort to meet up with you, speak to you then you know he likes you but if it's all happening on your end, then it might be time to just take a few steps back and let it go.
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I see him often face to face and only spoken to him two or three times but yeah I went up to him every time. He gestured to wanting my phone number in person and he seems active on Facebook so I guess he was just trying to be nice in person. He looked seriously interested the times I spoke with him in person he was really, really shy though. Can I say that men are the most confusing bunch ever.
He seemed pissed that I didn’t give him my contact info when he gestured for it the next time I saw but didn’t get to speak to him.
a person he knows that I know too saw that he was watching me with the security camera that they have in their family owned store every time I’m there which is a bit weird but I guess the shyness causes him to do that.
So if he wanted to actually be with me he would have made an effort, messaging, texting, in person whatever it takes. That’s the jist I got from most of the posters here.
I wish there were more desi get-togethers so I can meet other people.
I’m not in his friend list in Facebook. I only know him in person and came across his facebook account online so I messaged him. It showed the message was read but no response for two weeks…
Heck, most all the male of the desi species are married and bhais. Cool, thanks y’all for the input.
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Ruining relationships for a better tomorrow.... Facebook.
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Ruining relationships for a better tomorrow.... Facebook.
what the...what? I'm not in a relationship nor am I married. Whatcha talkin about?
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what the...what? I'm not in a relationship nor am I married. Whatcha talkin about?
A general observation about how FB is causing pain in lives.
I’m not in his friend list in Facebook. I only know him in person and came across his facebook account online so I messaged him. It showed the message was read but no response for two weeks…
Heck, most all the male of the desi species are married and bhais. Cool, thanks y’all for the input.
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You can always just give him your number through Fb but to be honest I don’t think he’s interested. If a guy is interested in any girl, they’ll find a way to talk even if they are shy outside of the net. Its probably easier for shy people to talk through the internet or text. I dunno, maybe he’s weird or maybe cause you didn’t give your number to him face to face he thinks you’re not interested but then again you’ve messaged him and he’s not showing any interest back. You’ve sent him a message on Fb so he knows how to get in touch.
Well I dunno about other desi guys but I’m single. Maybe i’m a anomaly..
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He may be shy BUT it could also be that he thinks you see him as a time-pass and nothing serious. You already took the step in asking for your phone number (no point in wasting time discussing his intent….bottom line is he asked for your phone number). The next time you saw him, you did not give it to him b/c according to you, you didn’t get to speak to him. Perhaps he thinks if you were serious about providing phone number, YOU would have made the effort to make sure he gets it.
If that wasn’t bad enough…..you found him on FB, messaged him, and STILL did not give your phone number! 
You have 2 options now:
- Forget it and move on.
- If you really like him, put your ego aside……send him a 2nd FB message saying something like you just remembered that you never gave him your phone number, give him the phone number. End it with something like “Call me when you get a chance so we can catch up.”…..or something similar based on your specific circumstance.
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wait let me get this right. he asked for your #, you didn’t give it to him, and you’re wondering why he won’t contact you? 