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Cut the BS. It’s so much easier. Just simply tell him that you are interested in getting to know him better and if he would like to go out with you. Us guys are weird. Girl I am seeing right now just straight out asked me out, never for a sec I thought she was weird or desperate. Life is too short for these hard-to-get dramas
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Then get an android, Idk
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I’m going to give it a try this Friday. He got an almost perfect score in something that i’m working towards so if he’s not interested than atleast I can get his help in understanding it and passing it. I’ve come to terms with the fact that he just might belong to some other woman and I think I care enough for him to see him happy either way.
I’ll let you all know how it goes. Most likely we’ll be friends since we are interested in the same profession…although it would be tough to see him give love and care to another woman. sigh We’ll see what happens chicos and chicas. Thanks some of your comments really helped.
Pisiform, one question, the girl that took the step to ask you out, is she Pakistani? If she is or isn’t would you consider her for marriage though? Not too many of us desi dudettes have the guts to do that. And then handle any possible rejection :D.
I was scared that he had bad intentions when he outright asked for my #. i just freaked out that’s all and his friends were with him and a family member that he is close with were watching intently what i would do so that was even more pressure. I guess they were there for his support but I had all these eyes on me. Wimped out is more like it.
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Just a thought, how long would it take for you or anyone for that matter develop a feeling for a guy or care for him? You said, you spoke to him three times? Is that all it takes for girls to develop feeling for a guy? Its a serious questions.
As for myself, it takes at least somewhere between 3-4 months of a time span to care for someone. I can like someone off the bat in couple of meetings, but I won’t develop any feelings for her until few months down the road.
is this because girls are emotional? I never believed in that because I think everyone is emotional … i know I am at times
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Soooo…you still have not messaged him your phone number huh?
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I want to do it face to face because the last time we talked was face to face. I guess just so he doesn’t think it’s a fake facebook profile or whatever that’s messaging him. It’s been a while since we spoke to each other in person and I just want to see his face. No emotions involved. He just has an awesome looking face and eyes.
Everybody’s different. As for my situation, i’ve known him and seen him for about 4 years now. He knows everything about me and messaged a friend of mine(at that time) about me and whenever we were together he used to ask her to ask me questions about myself because i didn’t have the guts to go up to him. If I was sitting alone, he messaged her to come and sit with me so i would have company(I guess). Just recently we spoke in person about three times and then when he gestured for my number I went into panic mode.
I don’t care what happens. As long as there is closure one way or another and I get some sort of answer of yay or nay
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Is it really that complicated or you are making it yourself
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Actually, I did option 2 just because face to face rejection is harder than fb blocking or rejection. If he doesn’t respond and he’s read the message, then I have to move on and not waste my time.
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GG…do what your heart tells you but make sure you at least give it a try.
You never know…he might belong to someone else or he might not.
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Yeah he read the message and he didn’t respond and it’s been more than 6 hours. Anybody who is actually interested would atleast give a few words in response like: yep i’m alive and I can respond to messages. It takes an immense amount of guts for a desi guy or girl to make a move towards wanting to connect with another person. Ahh it was not meant to be and that’s okay. Atleast I can close out that chapter too, lock it, and throw out the key.
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That was kinda rude. At least, he should have said hi or just generally asked about you. No one is asking him to marry you. Jeebus
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Could be wrong, but I agree with Sentry. Things might turn out differently, but I think that if he was seriously interested, you’d see more concrete actions than ambiguity from him and you wouldn’t feel so confused. It’s like they say, if you have to spend so much time wondering if he likes you, then he doesn’t. Again I could be wrong.
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Writing it out in a thread really helped me put my perspectacles on and see exactly how screwed up this person was. The mixed signals the mind games. Feel a sense of closure and relief that i’ve put all that in the past. Seriously, this thread helped to clear so much up. Allah send some of those genuinely kind, sweet people where there’s a mutual attraction my way.:is:
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