Not gona leave ..

[Demilitarize]

Re: Not gona leave ..

^ I think at some point we should all stage an intervention where we tell soni27 that she is right in everything. Bet you there would be no more posts.

Soni, are you really coming here for validation or do our opinions actually take root in your mind somewhere?

[STA]

Re: Not gona leave ..

i believe she needs our opinion.

and her problem is that she is latto(having crush) on married guy.

[Demilitarize]

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^ it's a damsel in distress complex, only with a poor guy as the damsel.

[STA]

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guy is not poor. he is getting laddos in both hand.

[Confucius]

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@Demesne

plus soni, please go out and mingle with SINGLE guys, rather than listening to the sob stories of the married ones. there is always a reason why a marriage falls apart and it isn’t as black and white as “the girl was bad” or “the boy was bad”. kindly do yourself a favor, every morning when you brush your teeth or whatever look in the mirror and repeat to yourself ten times over:
**I deserve to be with a man who is SINGLE and NOT a divorcee.
**
There are major self esteem issues with you I note from all your previous posts, perhaps you feel you are not good enough for a “zero meter” model

I think I missed something somewhere

[soni27]

Re: Not gona leave ..

The guy was trying to wait for her to get a job but since she doesn't tell full truth bout bythibg n hidez stuff they don't know if she actually plans on getting one like he says .. Like ometimez he sais she's got it signed paperZ n is gona get scheduled emailed to her but smtms she says their not gona haire me they didn't call me ..

N he has to take care of her board n lodge finance for. Bout 2.5 yrz mm so he dunt want that sh go out n get welfare .. Buy I said its better than this wats happening now .. N wehn she says to parents ill try again they giv her money .. She lovez money n z alwayz buying expenive clothes n eating out

N this story has nothing to wid me nor am I interested in this guy n nor does it hv nyhtng to do wid any married man wid 2 kidz so plez stop going off on ur own tangets n givng me advice tht is totally irrelevant .. Thanks

[Demilitarize]

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^ my bad. It's just that you know a lot of married men whose marriage is "on the rocks"

[NomiCA]

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guy is not poor. he is getting** laddos in both hand**.

what do you mean by laddo here??

[Iconoclast]

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Say there is a husband n wife they have been separated for several weeks no n they do not speak to each other .. But still living under the same roof .. The boys family have all tried to convince the girl to work it out but she says it's not gon work n I deserve to be happy .. The guy feels that way to but he s wiling to work on a solution if the girl shows some initiative which she is not. He has moved out of his room n sleeping on sofa downstairs .. She has the room with attached bath to herself. She refused to do the housework when they were still together but now she does it sometimes I think so she doesn't feel guilty for staying for free.

Shea looking for job n got called to interviews .. Eats n sleeps at the guys house .. The boys parents and sis pick n drop her to places he needs to go like school n when she goes out for dinner n movies with god knows who bcd she doesn't tell them .. She s also opened secret fb accoun n keeps it hidden from boy n talks on done wid someone n when she feels hers him coming he tries to hide it n put tv volume up .. She Said she hates him n does not want to contue th marriage but he has to keep her cuz she has nowhere to go .. The family does no feel like throwing out an alone Larki onto streets .. N even forced son to give back ring to her in th beginning when they felt there was a chanc that th marriage oulbe saved

Question is is it right to keep her in the house .. Having all the Ravi rites n luxuries a daughter in law would when she never fonez him .. Sometimes hez waited thinking she might fone him at work to try to reconcile .. N she physically assaulted him before that's y he cannot stay in the room .. N when he threatened to call police she said you call them n watch who wins .. N before in a joke she has threatened to scratch herself to show police that but he knows he cannot ever touch her evn in anger bcd he does not want to get in trouble with police .. He feels she fights to instigate him ..

But she's fine with the family n they r sleeping in separate rooms now n stopped talking to each other .. So hoe does the family go about getting her to leave bcd they r too nice to throw her out forcefully .. Wherevwill she go n what will she do sinc he refuses to go back to her home country . Sh told the boy I will go if u py for my zeperate living arrangement otherwise no im not going anywhere this ismy life .. I'm here now .. Bla bla

What should they do ? Boy is running out of patience n family is hurt at her outright refusal to reconcile with him n go on wid marriage .

Thanks for threads.

You have given life1 womenfolk plenty to work on. Girls Cmon, u have ur work cut out for u.

[soconfused]

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sorry, your english/vocab/spelling is impossible to understand.

From what I could understand, this situation is ridiculous and if, in fact, this is even real then all parties involved need stop being so passive and kick the dumb girl out. Why the heck would you let a girl that doesn't want to reconcile with your son stay in your house? How is anyone even okay with this? And is this girl lawaris?! Where's her family? More importantly, where is her izzat? If I hated my husband so much that I wanted to divorce him, I probalby wouldn't want to have anything to do with him later one either. I'd move out ASAP not use it as a hotel.

[CEO1]

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Chuck her out. SHE IS A WASTE OF SPACE.

[Mirch]

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Kick her out in the streets , she will learn her lesson. She is a leach and shameless soul.

[soni27]

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Her family is in her own home country

[soni27]

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Also boyz lil bro n sis z .. How should they behave with her itrz confusing .. She asks us for favour n to hide it from big bro n then whewn he finds out he gets angry .. Dunt wana be compltly rude thtll cause tention in house since living in samw place .. When he goez to work she bugz us to let her use net .. He hidz ipad n she botherz us to help her find it n even call him n lie tht we need it n when he finds out he gets angry .. Puzzling as to how to behave n wat to do wid her

[kakee]

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ah smart.
why won't any of your family members have a serious talk to her.
If she wants a divorce then you have to help her pack her bags and put it on the doorstep.

Buy her a ticket to wherever she came from and send her there.

[redvelvet]

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@soni27

Also boyz lil bro n sis z .. How should they behave with her itrz confusing .. She asks us for favour n to hide it from big bro n then whewn he finds out he gets angry .. Dunt wana be compltly rude thtll cause tention in house since living in samw place .. When he goez to work she bugz us to let her use net .. He hidz ipad n she botherz us to help her find it n even call him n lie tht we need it n when he finds out he gets angry .. Puzzling as to how to behave n wat to do wid her

If there are any kids on here or out there reading this very thread/post, here's a heartfelt message: Stay in school. Become functionally literate, so you can understand and be understood. And always say, "NO!" to drugs.

[kakee]

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^ ditto

Although your posts are comprehendible soni I do wish you learned how to spell..

[soni27]

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@kakee

ah smart. why won't any of your family members have a serious talk to her. If she wants a divorce then you have to help her pack her bags and put it on the doorstep.

Buy her a ticket to wherever she came from and send her there.

She said therez no way she is going back to her land .. She didn't get to use net today so she did the dishes .. Lol

[kakee]

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Then she has to compromise.
If she doesn't want to go back she has to help out.
She has to learn to love her husband and if she doesn't then she has to try to work out a way to get out of the house she doesn't want to stay in

[soni27]

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@kakee

Then she has to compromise. If she doesn't want to go back she has to help out. She has to learn to love her husband and if she doesn't then she has to try to work out a way to get out of the house she doesn't want to stay in

She said it's her life n he can't control her