I feel like i should add that as a disclaimer 
So… like…my parents never made me do housework and all… but now, obviously, I do. and its not a big deal, really. i just wish i had started doing more earlier, and let my mother rest, but any way…One thing that really bugs me..is someone asking me to do something. I get annoyed and irritated when someone does. My reasoning is that…I already do this work, without complaining or making a big deal about it, but I just dont like being reminded to. I feel like i shouldn’t be bothered about cleaning up 1-2 dishes when other days the sink is piled up halfway to the ceiling. Anybody ever feel this way as well, they hate to be reminded or told to do something when they do it all the time any way ?
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so ur not complaining about the in-laws but your complaining about your parents 
if it’s your mom that’s doing all the reminding then it’s their nature to do so…you just have to get used to it…if you havent already.
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Sara, I know what you are saying. I mean, when you are already doing whatever you have to then why must someone add their suggestions. People love to have an input in everything. Don't get bugged. Ignore and go about your business. The most important person in the world is your hubby, and if he is satisfied, don't worry too much about about incorrect criticisms.
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lets just say its not my parents NOR is it my in laws! 
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well if it’s not your in-laws or you parents then just ignore em because they dont have a right to tell you what to do…
even if it’s saieen 
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and any way can we please keep my in laws/family/ etc out of this???
This is why i rarely open threads here any more!!! 
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Sara, I know what you are saying. I mean, when you are already doing whatever you have to then why must someone add their suggestions. People love to have an input in everything. Don't get bugged. Ignore and go about your business. The most important person in the world is your hubby, and if he is satisfied, don't worry too much about about incorrect criticisms.
Hey..its not so much criticism, but just.. "come do this!"... that i don't appreciate whatsoever.
sometimes i thnk its cz i was never asked to do anything, so now that i am it bothers me...but...whatever.
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sara why do u even have to clarify that its not about inlaws or family. frankly it should not be anyone's business who you are talking about.
i see what u mean, I have had such bouts when i am told to do something i was going to do anyways..and when told/pushed to do it, i just go in a defiant mode and refuse.
its just showing ppl pushing that one can not be controlled pushed etc
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sara why do u even have to clarify that its not about inlaws or family. frankly it should not be anyone's business who you are talking about.
i see what u mean, I have had such bouts when i am told to do something i was going to do anyways..and when told/pushed to do it, i just go in a defiant mode and refuse.
its just showing ppl pushing that one can not be controlled pushed etc
it shouldn't, but everyone likes to make it their bidness...i mean hubby makes a sarcastic comment or i post a :( and i get Pms asking if anythings wrong with us? Ok but that's a whole other topic...any way, i wish ti was easy to argue wiht someone or not do it..but that'll cause more problems than anything else.
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maybe that msg is to just bug u :p
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I feel the same.
Thats one reason i have had friction with many of my colleagues but now with passage of time they understand.
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I feel exactly the same i want to help my mother etc but i just dont move when my mother tells me to do something more then once...its annoying and i feel as if people think i am deaf that i didnt hear them or probably dumb that they have to repeat their instructions :s
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hey sara…i can totally relate to you…i just hate when people tell me what to do…its like chill man..ill do it…but i guess its human nature to irritate others…lol…my advice will be..aik kaan say suno aur dosrey say nikal do…
…if you will argue with em…they will be like its for your own good and bla bla bla…
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sara....just tell them... "ok I'll do it ...
then do it when you're good and ready.
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Ignore..it..you won,t be here for too long!
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Hahaha omg, I thought I was the only one who felt that way but apparently there are a lot of others who feel the same way.
Wow, it is reallyy annoying. Like if I am sitting at home watching tv or reading a book, and I think to myself, hmm.. let me just iron my clothes or clean up the kitchen or something. I have thought abt doing it and I am going to. But then my mum will come and say, hey can you clean up the kitchen? And I get soooo irritated. I mean, I was going to but now I don’t feel like it. And I will just be boiling inside I guess that is what you call DHEETH insaan lol 
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we've all been there sara! some ppl like to be bossy, so if it's not an elder, just ignore them or tell them that you'll do it when u're good and ready, and tell them firmly but politely that they needn't remind u again.
on the other side of the coin, it's no good being annoyed about it if u haven't made it clear to the person that u don't appreciate their nagging. also if u said that you'd do it by a certain time, make sure u do it by then. recently i asked a friend to do somet for me by 11 am.. she promised she'd do it, but didn't get around to it til 2 pm, by which time it was already too late.
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The key is to do it before someone has a chance to remind you :)
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its so good to hear that im not the only one who feels this way!!
it dsnt matter who it is but wen im specifically told to do something i hate doing it more to the point i avoid doing it- i hate myself afterwards cos i think whats wrong with me?! y am i like this but it really really bugs me!
i do so much hswrk and sadly its not appreciated because its now become the norm at home- im expected to clean the whole house and wots annoying noone even bothers to ask if i need ne help as they no il jus get on with it..but wen i think il leave it today mayb watch sum telly or read a buk and do the hswrk later i hear things like 'uv changed, ur so moody, u never do nething etc etc' which puts me off doing the work totally- it does my head in!!