Re: Not being able to make decisions because your MIL has to-does it ever change?
Sara we had our issues as a couple; but when it comes to his daughter he actually is quite good. He plays with her, feeds her, talks to her, reads to her…you know the stuff you expect off a Father. Okay so spends limited time with her but the time he spends she actually looks forward to.
Plus I’ll be honest with you; my father (past tense) was a lousy one. He rarely dealt with me. I used to give him Fathers Day and Eid cards and he would rip them up in front of me and say that it’s a gora thing. Yes financially he’s avoiding the expenses of dressing his child, holidays etc and that was addressed in our conversation before the big storming out scene.
Reha-I seriously cannot blame you for that. Truth is I was at the time 21 and to a degree guilt tripped into this ristaa. My Khalas kept on about how my Mothers family supported us for 2 years when my parents split so it was kinda like a pay off. Does that make sense? They said it would make everyone happy; and apparently my Khalu is a nice person who is hardworking, a great husband and father and so ‘the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree’. It’s my own fault too; I should have told them to shove it. I was fresh out of uni and didn’t think carefully enough about it. I’d met the guy before and he was interested in my hobby of photography. He seemed nice enough and although he was still in education (which later on I found out he didn’t actually complete the college just issued the paperwork on demand of a one off payment) he had what seemed like ambition. Then he moved here and it was all about money and the demands got bigger the control got stronger.
Paheli-thank you. I was expecting him to do that. He’s acting like a child and I refuse to give in. I have become somehwhat of an expert at toddler behaviour and this is sadly no different.