The rishta process is much easier for gus than girls
I used to think the same inspi... but few of the families who have been looking for their sons did share their experiences and told that they were not able to make decisions because of the presence of 1-2 factors on which they had to compromise. If the girl was pretty, she was not qualified as they desired. If she was very well qualified, they didn't like something about the family.
And when the guys families finally like some girl (because she is PERFECT for them), the girl rejected them because she didn't like the guy.
But yeah right. If the guys and their families learn to compromise, they will be marrying girls who are rejected on small reasons. Girls like you and me.
err, i dont know about finding your own spouse on your own, but the underlining reasons behind why ppl are finding on their own is what really bothers me, ppl think they are so smart they can choose or their own plus parents think thank God one less responsibility
I don't like the idea of finding one's own spouse by working on it as a project. However, when one gets ready for marriage, he/ she should look around and if they can find someone within their circle whom they can refer to their parents, then why not.
The rishta process is much easier for gus than girls
no thats not always true .. iv seen guys in the west theyr families are having a hard time finding a girl .. even guys with all the good qualities .. lots of them are worried another is our distant family friend their son he got nikkah and then got divorced before the rukhsati so now theyre even more scared and cautious ..
I don't like the idea of finding one's own spouse by working on it as a project. However, when one gets ready for marriage, he/ she should look around and if they can find someone within their circle whom they can refer to their parents, then why not.
i agree
bas lagta hai aapko zyada intezar nahi karna para na karana para :p.
Uffo! Ashy, i didn’t expect this from you :nono: i am disappointed .
I understand that all of us desire to settle down without having to go through the hassle of this rishta process however wanting marriage at cost of anything at all is not a wise idea at all. This is like saying bas ho jaey bad k bad dekhi jayegi, i dnt agree with this mindset. Infact i think this is what is causing so many divorces nowadays, parents pushing their kids or kids themself just wanting to settle down with whoever says yes and later it turns out that they were mismatched hence the arguments and fights following marriage.
buddy you may take 1-2 meetings and 1-2 weeks to decide on gai bakri,
i dont
LOL
in my village, the other way to say "simpleton" is, that guy buys his goat on first meeting. food for thought, pal. folk wisdom is a powerful thing. usually when someone's goat catches a disease and dies, he sells off his other animals asap. it is important to see your goat at least a week apart before buying to make sure the animal isn't gonna die soon.
tell me has it ever happened to you that you went to buy the goat a week later and it was gone? and you had to start all over again
in my village, the other way to say "simpleton" is, that guy buys his goat on first meeting. food for thought, pal. folk wisdom is a powerful thing. usually when someone's goat catches a disease and dies, he sells off his other animals asap. it is important to see your goat at least a week apart before buying to make sure the animal isn't gonna die soon.
Nahi yaaar… I believe in ‘love marriage’ ONLY according to the criteria set by our parents…
E.g. my brother has already told us that he will be marrying a girl which he selects for himself. I agreed with him but told him that we expect her to be muslim, educated, belonging to a good family etc etc. If a son/ daughter selects his/ her own spouse which is according to the criteria set by the parents, there is nothing wrong in it and if parents still object (before marriage or after marriage), its unfair on their part.
I don’t support love marriages which are mis-matched e.g. different religion, different sect etc. The criteria varies from family to family and we should follow what is expected of us by our family.
A guy/ girl selecting his/ her own spouse should keep it in his/her mind that if their parents would have met the guy/ girl on their own, they should have liked him/her. On the other hand, the parents should respect that their children has followed their criteria and should approve of their choice.
Nahi yaaar... I believe in 'love marriage' ONLY according to the criteria set by our parents...
E.g. my brother has already told us that he will be marrying a girl which he selects for himself. I agreed with him but told him that we expect her to be muslim, educated, belonging to a good family etc etc. If a son/ daughter selects his/ her own spouse which is according to the criteria set by the parents, there is nothing wrong in it and if parents still object (before marriage or after marriage), its unfair on their part.
I don't support love marriages which are mis-matched e.g. different religion, different sect etc. The criteria varies from family to family and we should follow what is expected of us by our family.
Nahi yaaar... I believe in 'love marriage' ONLY according to the criteria set by our parents...
E.g. my brother has already told us that he will be marrying a girl which he selects for himself. I agreed with him but told him that we expect her to be muslim, educated, belonging to a good family etc etc. If a son/ daughter selects his/ her own spouse which is according to the criteria set by the parents, there is nothing wrong in it and if parents still object (before marriage or after marriage), its unfair on their part.
I don't support love marriages which are mis-matched e.g. different religion, different sect etc. The criteria varies from family to family and we should follow what is expected of us by our family.
Oye mein yeh nahi keh rahi yar. I have nothing against love marriages, neither do i think arranged marriages can work for everyone. Sab kismet pe demand karta hai yar, sometimes arrange marriages can work or not work and same goes for love marriages.
Mein tu keh rahi thi k rush nahi karna chahiye whether its arranged or love marriage. You said na k love marriage mein shadi tu ho jati hai and that is what i didnt like cuz shadi ho jaana sirf koi baat nahi. Sab ki ho sakti hai but akal samjh c decision karna chahiye, i m not saying k phir bhi decision galt nahi ho sakta...ho sakta hai but ateast you know you have been careful and done your part.
Aur han i think most parents of todays time won't have issues with their kids selecting their life partner if it was done in accordance with some set rules like religion, etc etc.
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