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Already tried… Next!!! 
It is… But I think 2-3 years is the average time for girls in arranged setting…
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I was reallly attracted to this guy at uni who was probably the ugliest guy in our class, he looked literally Mr Potato head with a fake tan.
But I was super super super super attracted to him to the point where my friends said I was not allowed to be left alone with him...
For some reason we had chemistry though.
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very moving story indeed…:k:
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you mean, 2-3 yrs in the looking, meeting, accepting/rejecting cycle?
that is too long
It is... But I think 2-3 years is the average time for girls in arranged setting...
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^ Yes its tooo long... but its usually the norm.... As far as what I know from the girls who had arranged marriages.... Some girls are lucky to have the right rishta soon... but majority has to go through rishta process for fairly longer periods of time...
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^what do you think, in your opinion, is the reason as to why it takes such a long time?
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SK: answer is subjective. different criteria/demands.
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No, im asking why does it take long? not why one gets accepted or rejected
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SK - Just because you marry someone doesn't mean you will love them within a day - these feelings take time to develop
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huh, what?
SK - Just because you marry someone doesn't mean you will love them within a day - these feelings take time to develop
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No, im asking why does it take long? not why one gets accepted or rejected
because it takes long to find someone who fits on your criteria and whose criteria is to have a person like you...
Thats why its called MATCH.... it usually takes looong for people to match themselves with the right ones...
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Kismet is the keyword. Some may say no its money/beauty/status that matters, but that is part of kismet too, isnt it?! ;).
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ahh - okay let me ask you this, how long does it take for one prospective rishta to come to a conclusion, before one moves on to the next one?
this would be my last question
because it takes long to find someone who fits on your criteria and whose criteria is to have a person like you...
Thats why its called MATCH.... it usually takes looong for people to match themselves with the right ones...
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agreed, i argue that kismet is something not in your hands. effort sincerity etc. are.
Kismet is the keyword. Some may say no its money/beauty/status that matters, but that is part of kismet too, isnt it?! ;).
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SK, it depends... Its we get a rishta which is not worth considering (different sect i.e. sunni, shia etc), such rishta is concluded immediately with a polite no.
If everything seems to be ok, the guy's family visits and IF they say yes, the rishta proceeds until something wrong happens and the rishta stops. It can be from either side.
I cannot provide ONE answer for your questions since the conclusion of every rishta and its reasons vary.
People usually look at different rishtas and consider few rishtas simultaneously until they decide to pursue ONE exclusively. If for some reason the rishta doesn't conclude favourably, they have the next option available. If not, they keep the search going on.
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^ I must be living on a diff planet 
i was thinking it would be as simple as finding, going, meeting once twice, deciding within week or two, …
finding is the part where it may take long
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The rishta process is much easier for gus than girls
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I guess better find your own spouse… Sara chukkar hi khatam… But arranged is the only option for duffers like me
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It really depends. In some cases, it can be very quick! Some people say yes at that very instant but just because they say yes, you can't go ahead and marry them. It takes the immediate liking of both the families for things to roll on quick, however that if often not the case. However yes i don't think it should take more than 2-3 meetings to decide if its a yes or a no.
I think Sk has been quite lucky :p.
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err, i dont know about finding your own spouse on your own, but the underlining reasons behind why ppl are finding on their own is what really bothers me, ppl think they are so smart they can choose or their own plus parents think thank God one less responsibility