Re: Not allowing wife to cut her hair
I always ask for my husband’s opition regarding my clothing, hair, make-up etc. He’s very open and tells me exactly what he thinks. He doesn’t get grumpy, nasty, or throw fits if there’s something about my looks he doesn’t like. He will tell me very specifically what he doesn’t like…things like that color doesn’t suit you, it makes you look short, that hair color is too bright (note: I get highlights on my hair) etc. He simply tells me how he feels and leaves it upto me to decide whether or not I want to change it. And he doesn’t give me any hassle IF if I choose not to change it.
I always take his opinions into account but at the end of the day, I do what give ME the most confidence in myself. (Luckily hubby and I have very similar taste when it comes to clothing/hair etc. so this isn’t a major issue for us).
If you husband likes the typical long desi braid…but you do not feel confident in that type of hair, then HE needs to love and respect you enough to understand that YOU don’t like the way that “typical desi” hair makes you look. As much as I love my husband, I would never sacrifice my own self-esteem just so he can experience some type of magical satisfaction when he looks at my hair.