Re: Not allowing wife to cut her hair
Could you provide some more information? What is your definition of berserk? What exactly did he say or do?
Also I think your title is too far stretched. If he didnt allow you, you wouldnt be doing it again and again.
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MY husband also likes long hair, but not too long, where as he has seen me with short hair too. So now I dont cut my hair short, I know short hair is so much easier to maintain .. but I do keep them longer than short as thats what he prefers on me.
Re: Not allowing wife to cut her hair
baalon me aag laga lo phr to katwane hi pare ge:D
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i think if he didnt like so u should dont cut just say politely that u will have to trim your hair health and nice growth
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As someone above said, the haircut was just the trigger, and he is probably upset about something else.. Have you been having arguments about other things?
In any case, surely there’s a compromise that you guys can reach.. maybe try a new style that you both like? Talk to him with an open mind.
Also I don’t agree that you should look good only for your spouse - for most women, looking good is also about their own self esteem. You shouldn’t feel compelled to wear a style that you’re not comfortable with.
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honestly is it really that big an issue?
my husband prefers long hair…for whatever reasons that may be…he just has a preference.
I’ve had all lengths of hair in my life and he knows it.
Caring for longer hair is quite a challenge since I work full-time and looking professional is important to me yet I have for the past 13.5 years kept my hair at least to the middle of my back…mainly for him.
A couple of weeks ago I cut it to just above my collar bone and he noticed right away. He didn’t complain but he also didn’t compliment it. Koi baat nahin…in a couple of months it will grow back and I will have had my way as well.
Should either one of us make a big deal out of it? No. I was careful not to be drastic and he was mindful not to upset me about it.
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I always ask for my husband’s opition regarding my clothing, hair, make-up etc. He’s very open and tells me exactly what he thinks. He doesn’t get grumpy, nasty, or throw fits if there’s something about my looks he doesn’t like. He will tell me very specifically what he doesn’t like…things like that color doesn’t suit you, it makes you look short, that hair color is too bright (note: I get highlights on my hair) etc. He simply tells me how he feels and leaves it upto me to decide whether or not I want to change it. And he doesn’t give me any hassle IF if I choose not to change it.
I always take his opinions into account but at the end of the day, I do what give ME the most confidence in myself. (Luckily hubby and I have very similar taste when it comes to clothing/hair etc. so this isn’t a major issue for us).
If you husband likes the typical long desi braid…but you do not feel confident in that type of hair, then HE needs to love and respect you enough to understand that YOU don’t like the way that “typical desi” hair makes you look. As much as I love my husband, I would never sacrifice my own self-esteem just so he can experience some type of magical satisfaction when he looks at my hair.
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:k: Agreed. No need to make a big deal out of something silly like hair.
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Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,
According to leading Hanafi scholars of Syria, including Shaykh Adib Kallas, there is no harm in a woman cutting her hair, as long as:
a) it remains feminine (and thus does not resemble men);
b) it is not cut with the express intent of imitating non-Muslim fashions; and
c) it is not cut ‘excessively’.
The texts in the Hanafi school indicating impermissibility of women cutting their hair are understood—these scholars say—to be conditioned by the above considerations.
In the Shafii school, it is permitted to even cut the hair very short if the husband prefers it that way.
Please go to www.SunniPath.com, and search for women cutting hair
*And Allah alone gives success.
abu amaar pir syed muhmmad muhtashim tabish raiaqi ul hussaini
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Re: Not allowing wife to cut her hair
What if I want my wife to get a high and tight 
Re: Not allowing wife to cut her hair
Probably ur hubby likes long hair on you…
But i would say ..stay true to urself..
never do somethin ur not comfi with:)
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maybe he thinks you look bad with your haircut?
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He’s over it after 3-4 days. I don’t know why he was grumpy. I just wanted to ask here if it was a typical male or Pakistani male thing.
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Well it’s not typical to get mad for 3-4 days but it is typical for men to prefer long hair but I don’t even know if you cut it excessively.
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No its not a typical Pakistani male thing. Some are less appreciative than others but its not typical. May be he was grumpy for some other reason and just took it out on you.
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Stick it back with glue and make him happy.
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I should stick it back on his head.. would cover up that bald patch
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Re: Not allowing wife to cut her hair
do not get them cut , even if u are an aussie, he likes you in long hair
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Something wrong with a dude i tell ya. There has to be something that must be bothering him though.