Non-Muslim first name

[redvelvet]

Re: Non-Muslim first name

@fitoor

OMG his first name doesn’t embarrass me, I love him but it’s a representation of a **difference between us. **Something that could cause fights and arguments.

**I don’t feel that we are the same **when I say his first name, I feel the closeness when I say his last name because the two represent two vastly different cultures. Yes there are Muslims with non-Muslim names but there are also those that change their names to Muslim ones because they want to integrate into the community and not feel different.

Since when are two people (even of the same exact ethnicity and background) the “same”..? Even they would have differences between them. You could view his first name as a “divider” …that’s one way to look at it. Or you can view his name and yours as a “uniter” of two different cultures, as a representation that such a “union” or merging…is possible. Kya khayal hai? If you think about it, most people (when they look at the two of you) will wonder…“How did they end up together? What’s their story?” And this natural curiosity would take place before they even find out what your respective names are. And it’s kinda cool. Different can be refreshing, intriguing. Or maybe you’re worried because this difference creates subconscious or conscious fear of the relationship not working out? I dunno.

If it doesn’t bother him when you use his last name, then just stick to that. To my knowledge even converts to Islam are not required to change their names. He may or may not want to change his name at a later point. Roberto has a nice meaning; bright and shining.