SO has one and it bothers me. His mother is half desi half Italian so his maternal grandmother named him that name. I don’t want to be bothered by it but I find myself saying other words of endearment instead of his first name.
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Okay??
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What okay. Wouldn’t it bother you? I mean you love this person, give up anything for that person but then something like this does bother you. I’m a terrible person.
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I don’t see what the big deal is, it might be unusual but it’s just a name lmao.
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Oh come on there’s so much in a name though. If I mention him I mention him by his Muslim last name and just block out the first name. I think about how I would intro him to friends and not so close family that might judge. It’s more to protect him. I’m not super religious but we value our families and heritage. Okay this is all very shallow and pointless but then if it bothers me, it isn’t.
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This is one of these things that you’re just going to have to let go… as you get older you’ll find this kind of thing really doesn’t even register on your radar and 5 years from now it’s just not going to matter. He doesn’t need your protection (that reads as harsh but I promise I’m not saying it like that lol!) so don’t sweat what other people think. It’s his name. He isn’t going to change it and there’s way more to a person than their name. Additionally, you run the risk of making him uncomfortable if you are really vocal about your dislike for it (which I’m sure you haven’t been!) Put yourself in his shoes… if my partner refused to call me by my name or acted uncomfortable introducing me to family it would make me pretty sad.
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Does he have a middle name?You can call him by that.
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It should not bother you.
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It’s not that i’m refusing. A wife shouldn’t say her husband’s name anyways, it would be more respectful. I love him but I gravitate towards the last name like saying engineer “last name” to show respect. I totally see your last sentence. It makes complete sense and I feel lower than pond scum.
His parents were completely non religious so his father named him an Italian middle name so even more different.
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Aww no no… none of that! 
Once you’re married and get on with the business of life it’s really not going to matter!
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You can call him sir or master to show respect, attagirl.
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Not saying his name out of respect!!! 
Then why is this even bothering you? You can assume you are avoiding his first name out of respect and move on with life happily.
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Okayyy, so I may have missed the update…did you find someone else? Do things with Mr. Italian look more promising? Hottie or Nottie? JK! Girl, don’t worry about his name. You can always call him babe or hubby or mi amour. If he develops a deeper sense of religiosity he might just pick himself a muslim name. Ya never know! BTW, what does fitoor mean? And how did you name yourself that?
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So what is it? Mario? Luigi? Paolo?
I hope it’s Luigi…cuz I’m mean like that. 
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I’m betting on Gianni.
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Lol how does being only 1/4th Italian make somebody Italian.
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She can call him her Gianni Panini. Or her Panini Jani. shudders
Third String, I don’t like terms of endearment. They don’t roll off my tongue easy. A friend of a friend calls her husband Jaan-Ji and it turns me a bit green 
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Name aside…does he COOK? With Italian in his blood I hope he treats you to fancy home made dinners. 
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What the heck!! I think “massa” or “your highness” would suffice.
roberto
His mother grew up in Italy so she cooked mostly authentic Italian cuisine…yumminess.
i’ll see how all this goes. He speaks in the most loving way. Respect is of utmost importance is what he keeps saying so it’s hard not to get attached.
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This is so extra and for no reason. It doesn’t need to be that deep and yet…