Re: Non-mahrem men living with you
My husband told them that we were willing to find him a place, take care of him, and even help with his rent if that is an issue.
Over the years we have learned not to directly say no to my ILs, and instead take a round-about path. That is probably the crux of this debate - my MIL can't handle the "no".
One suggestion .. dont over promise the rent part .. that is not your responsibilty .. thing is .. when you give alternatives .. sometimes it appears that you are in a weaker position in this arguement ... although you are not
If she cannot take no .. she is not going to take no, even if you take a round-about approach ...
It may sound ugly but you have to put your foot down .. this is your house , your priorities ...
If they want to return the favor .. they should do it at their expense .. not at yours ...