Non-desi guys

[Jasmine_Tea]

Re: Non-desi guys

@lafuriaroja

In my experience I’ve seen that religion plays a bigger part in issues than culture.

My friends (both male and female) who have had issues have them because of religion. Some examples are:

• what religion to raise kids
• following islam with prayers, fasting, hajj, etc.
• family issues- some of my more religious/traditional friends come from fairly close extended families and see each other frequently, call, visit. For example if my khala or cousin were to visit it would be expected that they’d stay with me, I’d take care of them as my guests, usually pay for the food, etc. It’s not necessarily so common in western culture so I’ve seen conflict around that.
• drinking, going to bars, eating pork
• dressing modestly
• family’s acceptance of spouse- for example for 1 of my friends, her husband ‘converted’ to Islam, but it’s clear he just did it so the family would let the marriage go through, he doesn’t really practise it and although she was ok with it at the time, now she gets very offended when anyone in her family talk about her being married to a non-muslim.

Thanks for that list.

• what religion to raise kids - We agree on religious views, so I am hoping this wouldn’t be an issue
• following islam with prayers, fasting, hajj, etc.
• family issues- this might become an issue because I am definitely close to my family
• drinking, going to bars, eating pork - I’m vegetarian. he’s thinking of becoming vegetarian. I don’t care if he drinks, too responsible for me to be concerned. He’s too nerdy for the bar scene.
• dressing modestly - i might be too modest for a white person, but hasn’t said anything. Lets see
• family’s acceptance of spouse- His family may have some trouble accepting me. I have to talk about this with him some more.