I hope what I write doesn’t offend anyone. I know I’m taking a chance even putting this out here, but I’m a curious person and always in the know. Ok, so here goes, one of my friends is Pakistani. She’s a nice person. We have interesting conversations and so forth, but I was wondering why she wanted to be my friend. The first time we spoke she asked what my surname was. I didn’t think much of it at the time when I responded, but then I started to wonder. Why did she want to know? We continued to speak taking turns asking questions,with her asking more than answering. We hit it off and became instant friends. I’ve been wanting to ask her for a while now Why she wanted to know my surname but thought it would just be to awkward and weird. So, I wanted to know is asking a potential friend’s surname like Traditional introduction? Is that how you form a friendship? Is my surname important? Am I being judged from that? Is that the only reason she wanted to be my friend? I hope no one takes offense to my statement. I’m just a curious person with a penetrating mind.
Sometimes I can tell whether someone is Bengali, Pakistani, Gujerati, Tamil or whatever by their surname. Maybe she just wanted to find out where you were from
When you meet someone for the first time, you need something to break the ice. I also often don't know what to talk about when I meet a person for the first time. I think she just asked that question to start the conversation, to know you more. Don't look for anything behind it.
People when nervous talking to someone for the first time ask all sorts of weird and random questions. It could be just a random thing that came into her mind to keep the conversation going.
Like nowadays when i meet a new person and get talking with them, i often ask them about their caste and that is only because i have been trying to observe what diff traits come with diff castes .
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