They insist you to come to their place and become unhappy with you if you don’t come for iftar. But when you make this mistake, they quietly observe you eating meal till they realize that there is no capacity left in your stomach. After that their mission starts. Auntie places a big piece of chicken in your plate, uncle adds few kababs to make it a perfect assassination, and grandma closes all doors (hopes) of escape by giving you a “kasam” (promise) that you will finish all the materials placed in the plate, as it is a sunnah to clean the plate. No one remembers the sunnah of not eating to one’s full, and no one will offer taraweeh in place of you when you are not able to stand on your feet. At that time it is difficult to listen to the Imaam because your stomach is interrupting him and cursing you with strange noises…
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lolzzz awwwww i know what you must be feeling!!!
My parent's khala does that to us........ and she is a horrible horrible...... i mean literally horrible cook!!! plus her place is dirty!! awful!! plus most of the time its half cooked!! so we avoid going to her place!! she keeps complaining and if by mistake we do go.... ....... we are forced to eat what she made!! and that too a lot!!! and if we refuse to, we get all kinds of replies......... from "ya tum log tu ameer log ho... mere pass jo tha woh rakh diya", then "tum logoon keh bachye (as in us) tu kuch khate nahian...." and "sare nakhre inko nani keh ghar aakar hi hote hain" and the best one is "aab thora tu aur leh lo... itna bura bhi nahian banati main" and after that she tells me.... u have gained so much weight.... kam khaya karo.... rishta kise hoga!! I am like.... great so i am not eating what u have placed in my plate!! uss peh bhi narazgi....... ya tu sari dieting idhar aakar hi yaad aati hai!!
its just toooooo crazy!!! I am a chai drinker and she knows....... so whenever i go to her home I tell her.... nahian i left tea!! i drink water only!!
Allah bachye!! hum humesha bimar hote hain unkeh food saye......
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^ that’s kinda sad, does noone tell her she’s not a gooD cooK? and i hate how ppl dO that, if u eat what they give u later htey tell u to go on a diet, if u eat very little to begin with they ask u if ur on a diet 
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yaaaa her son in law keeps telling her that all the time......... and she thinks he is damn funny!!!! lolzzzz
yaa i know!! its just messed up!!! and it sucks especailly when you take what they are telling u to eat, even if it is their sweet dish!! phir thori dear baad they are like... cut down on ur sugar ........ i dont eat anymore sweet.... see how much i have lost weight!!! I am like..... then why the hell did u offer it to me?? mera kya kasoor hai???
its just messed up!! and if u tell them before hand that u are on a diet and not eating sugary stuff they give u such a horrible look.......... as if i have commited a sin........ not eatting her dish!!
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damned if u do anything damned if u dont :D
frankly if i were inviting someone over for dinner, i'd be a lil offended if they barely ate anything. ok i KNOW that they could've beenf ull, if it was their first time and they filled up beforehand cz they didtn know hwo the food would be etc..but still.. i'd be thinking inside what ur khala says.. =//
Submission: that is terribleeeeee! feel sorry for people in that situation 
Subbo: you are in the worst situation - cuz you also get to hear about “you rich, us poor” beside the terrible food - but good patients you have for not coming out rudely to your aunt… :k:
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STP, I would invite the same family to dinner at my house and give them the excellent 5 star service I received as their guest! Hopefully, they should get the message! Otherwise, you could always ask them to pack the food in your plate for later as you don't like eating a huge meal before isha/tarawee.
Subbo perhaps you could also return the favor to your aunt by inviting her to your house instead of visiting her?
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One problem is that people just cook too much.
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I put a little at a time in those situation and keep on eating very slowly till the end. That way I am not over stuffed and the host is happy that I did Insaaf with everything they cooked.
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jus say 'aunty il take it in my own time, apna he ghar hai...is main sharmane ki kya baat hai:D]
and then jus have lil of everything...and say ... ur dua after eating..and if she offers u anything jus say nai khala ...maine dua karli aab iss ke baad main kuch nai leti :p]
great idea - keeps everyone happy! :k: