No children for a while After Marriage

diwana · March 4, 2010, 2:47am

It’s generally a good idea to wait for 1-2 years after the marriage. There are some factors however to consider - mutual understanding, maturity, financial stability, and age to be a few.
Mutual understanding is an important factor and this understanding will only come once two individuals spend quality time together. You never know there can be some irreconcilable difference so it’s better to find those out before planning to have any children.
One should be mature enough to have and raise children. The maturity has nothing to do with age. One can be mature enough at 20 and one may not be mature even at the age 30. Maturity certainly helps to have better understanding and tolerance.
Financial stability is also a very important factor. Once you have children then it becomes a bit difficult to relocate or try out different ventures. We all want to provide the best to our children and hence we should have a somewhat solid start before having children.
Now age is also a matter of fact we can’t ignore. The older the woman, the more difficult to conceive. Also a couple want to be around their children when they are growing up. If a man is 50 when they decide to have a child, imagine the probability of him seeing the child to grow at age 20 or so. It’s our responsibility to provide financial and parental care for our children so we must plan to the extent we have control on things. God knows the best what can happen and when but at least we can plan.

As a guideline, if a couple is between 20-25, they can easily wait 3+ years before having a child. If they are between 25-30 I think they can still wait 2 years. If they get married once they are 30+, they should wait at least a year.

Again, it all depends on one’s situation and people can decide to the best of their own circumstances.

Yes and Excellent!

Age at marriage and some social issues are very important in planning to have children. Depending on how many they want to, the timing should be well tought of. Off course plan may not work so plan in such a way that both partners achieve some accomplishment of their plan.

Some couples are so ‘lucky’ that they get desired mix of female and male child with desired gap.