No boxed gifts please

[eastern11]

@somegroovychick

^ lesson of the day: don’t invite random people to your wedding just to save face in society. have smaller weddings with people you care about- its more affordable, and they’ll care enough about you to give you what you’ve asked for (gift registry) and/or money as they’ll know you’re starting out.

when you invite people who only come to a wedding to eat, which many of them do, you’re going to end up getting **** gifts and lose all right to complain.

“no boxed gifts” is impolite, plain and simple- practicality doesn’t enter into gift giving unless the gifter chooses to make it so. thats why its called gift giving, and not gift receiving. but again, full circle, it brings me back to the point of having 400 people out of whom you know 50. if you don’t know them, you probably don’t really care about them being there, and so the only thing that makes it worthwhile for you to feed them is if you get something out of it-- so of course there’s no hesitation in telling your guests to give you money or else. and from their part, theres no point in each person paying for their plate plus a bit more, they’re happy to be a family of 6 and gifting you $50 cash- after all, they’re most likely just there for the food.

its just messed up overall.

as a society, we need to be more aware of gift-giving etiquette and bother enough to follow it.

I agree co,mpletley. The no boxed gifts is very impolite in my opinion. If desis say they want to follow the practical way of goras then why don’t more desis have “give to such and such charity in lieu of gifts” like many goras do.

I didn’t have lots of people at my venue either. The venue I chose was not big enough to accomodate a lot of people, though I would have loved to have more of my dad’s friends there. But I didn’t want to compromise on the venue just to accomodate more people.