Re: No boxed gifts please
In the U.S. I don’t think most ppl would actually tell someone their “gift is unwelcome”. I’ve never been to a wedding like that. And most couples that do prefer cash have it worded on their invitation like “No boxed gifts please.” The “please” in there is making it a nice request.
I think it’s also rude for a guest to go to a wedding and give them something the couple clearly doesn’t want. Is it about the guest or the couple at this point? Every guest is going to give something, so whether it’s $5 or $5,000 why not have them invest in something that the couple actually needs or desires. In this modern day and age, why keep feeding in to these weird formalities and pretending like you’re okay with everything. What good is it getting a couple a gift that YOU want to give, but that they’ll never use? Are you buying the gift to fulfill your own personal desire or you buying the gift for the COUPLE who invited you to their wedding? I don’t see what the big deal is. You should accept anything that anyone gives you b/c a gift is a gift and blah blah blah, but lets be real here. Both of my brothers got married and barely used any thing that was gifted to them other than cash. They ended up leaving everything in Pakistan(where there wedding was). So who’s money is gone to waste? The guests! Let’s be practical people.
There’s nothing wrong with stating what you prefer and would like as a couple. If it bothers a guest THAT much I would seriously question whether that guest actually cares about ME and making me happy or themselves. If someone gets me an ugly house decoration piece, I will still be overjoyed and thank them genuinely from the bottom of my heart because a gift IS a gift. It still means a lot. But it’ll be sad b/c I’ll probably never take it out of the box and really use it. So what makes sense here?