No boxed gifts please

[Reha]

@janab-e-ali

What I don’t understand is that if you’re so utterly convinced that there’s nothing wrong with the practice, why are you getting all hot and bothered when someone disagrees? If I post a picture of an outfit I adore, and 10 people tell me its hideous, do you think I care? No…I know I have excellent taste, and I trust myself enough to go out and buy the outfit anyways. I think the fact that you’re getting so riled up over this just shows that deep down inside, you think its a pretty tacky concept too, but you just don’t want people pointing it out.

I said it before and I’ll say it again:

If someone is so desperate to make a couple bucks that they’re willing to sacrifice their manners and their dignity and ask for money outright, I certainly wouldn’t dream of denying them their payout. So then why would they care if I, or anyone else, felt that their behavior was tacky? They wanted money, they asked for it, they got it…and they should be happy that they got what they demanded. Their actions have consequences - and they should know that such behavior will be considered unacceptable and rude by virtually all of their American/Canadian/European guests, as well as a sizable chunk of their Desi guests. No amount of bellyaching is going to change that. So if your’re planning on demanding money, you need to live with it.

Totally agree with everything you said in this post!

You of all people should not be talking about manners and dignity…look at your posts. They reek of uncouth behavior to say the least.

Even if we chose to ignore your offensive behavior, the fact remains that its a personal choice that you have no control over or anything to do with. You dont get to make those decisions.

You need to get out more and actually socialize with people rather than sit in your hidey hole and pretend like you know. You have nothing really substantial to say there aside from “waah waah, I dont like it”.

@janab-e-ali

Actually, I think YOU need to go and read about other cultures and people. People in Pakistan and India would be offended by your behavior. People in the US/Canada/Europe would be offended by your behavior. You and a small subset of the South Asian expat community in the UK/North America are the ONLY people who think this is remotely acceptable.

Frankly I had no idea my approval mattered so much to everyone…ironically, it’s actually oddly flattering.

We’re not in India and Pakistan now are we darling? Contrary to what you say, people disagree with you. Thats the funny part. The cash gift did not originate among expats in the US at all. Do some legwork about that. I’ll let you find out on your own.

Anyway, to each their own. Do what you want but dont look down on others because again…you’re no one to judge or pick on their choices. Its not your wedding. Since people are still required to come to your wedding, smile and say you look beautiful regardless of how you really look…you should be extending the same courtesy to others.

Miss Manners ever taught you that? Grace? Eloquence? Class? Dignity? Anything? Come on! Give me something here!!!

YOU DO NOT GET TO PICK OR JUDGE WHAT IS RIGHT OR WRONG FOR SOMEONE ELSE TO DO.

YOU DO NOT HAVE THAT RIGHT.

Your approval means nothing…but your hideous attitude needs tweaking.