No boxed gifts please

[gulab_jamun]

@mistral

GJ - I think what Reha is saying is that the criticism, regardless of how you choose to do anything, is the thing that’s wrong. Whether you write no boxed gifts or not, the point is not to get upset about it either way and start critiquing. And it’s the form of the criticism that’s most upsetting. As you said, no one actually calls and tells the married couple or their families what their problem was. That would actually be the correct thing to do…that is, if you have a problem with someone, talk to THAT person and resolve things or keep your mouth shut. Instead, people start gossiping…sometimes at the wedding itself about how bad this is or how tacky that is or how dry the chicken was.

We all have a right to our opinions, we all feel a certain way about some things, heck, we all pass judgment on stuff…but how we choose to express it, that’s where the problems crop up.

The thing is most ppl don’t really care…like me…I don’t really care, if the couple put it’s on the card…I’ll pay my standard gift $ either way. I probably won’t even notice.. but when you’re going to bringing to my attention by making a forum out of it..well your gonna get what ppl think on passing abt it…

We all pass judgment… when a bride where’s something you don’t like… haven’t you once said/thought “nah, i don’t think I’m going to where that style/or that color at my wedding” or if they pierce their nose at their wedding, I’ve thought a lot of times “nah I don’t think i’m going to that”…or if they invite a belly dancer that only wore a bra- would you really think it’s that wrong for people to think, that was “tacky, and wouldn’t do it at my wedding”? or talk abt it?

same here if they put “no boxed gifts”..i’m going to think, “nah i wouldn’t that at my wedding…”

it’s no different!