No boxed gifts please

[Reha]

@mistral

^I think your post kinda captures why weddings aren’t fun for me anymore. So much criticism about everything…maybe the criticism might even be justified, but for the love of God, why have we forgotten that time honored saying which exists in nearly every language/culture/nation…“if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say it at all.” It’s a wedding. No matter who it is, how good/bad you think the invites are, the style of the clothes, the condition of the food, etc. it is primarily an occasion of hope, of two families coming together, of happiness, of two people fulfilling half their deen. It’s a time for guests to put a big smile on their face, give their mubaraks to the couple, and pray for them. No more no less. Why do we have to complicate it with all this stuff?

Bingo!

“Omigosh, tumne dekha cards pe kya likha? No Boxed Gifts! How tacky! By the way, did your Karma outfit come in yet? Like, Im soooo dying to see it!”

Or “dekha kaisa jora pehnaya? Unki ammi ne bhi kuch khaas nahin pehna tha. Khana bhi bass sahi tha” and blah blah blah.

@gulab_jamun

Except it’s rude for the couple to expect gifts from guests- the couple invited them to enjoy the happiness of their union..not so they can help you out with the excessive amt they spent on the wedding to show off. Ideally speaking, that is.

. I personally wouldn’t put No boxed gifts on my wedding card, but I don’t really have an issue with it either, it’s so common I hardly notice it…yes, the ideal would be to instead put “no cash or boxed gifts, all gifts will be donated to charity”…and I get a good vibe when I see a couple that does that…what a great ex. to set!!!

Honestly though, when I go wedding these days, I feel like I pay this big admission fee at entrance…Even a day at Disney doesn’t cost as much!

Its rude for guests to impose their wishes on the bride and groom on their wedding day. Gift giving is normal and standard among weddings of almost EVERY culture. For the bride and groom to pretend like they’re not getting any is ridiculous. All they’re saying is “if you do plan on getting us a gift, it would be great if you made it a cash gift instead because its something we can actually use right now.” If that is tooooooooooooo hard for some to live with, then I suggest they not go.

Keep it simple people.