No boxed gifts please

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@Muzna

I am told that the “going rate” is to double your plate cost per person.
So if the venue is such that the cost per plate is $50 and you are going as a couple then you should be giving $200.

so basically point being dont invite poor ppl to expensive weddings, because a few of these and your monthly budget it shot.

ghareeb ppl…who needs em..

@Muzna

Apparently if people bring a boxed gift to an event that has been specified as “No Boxed Gifts”, then they can expect that at the time the gift is opened there will be lots of jeering, sneering and badmouthing happening about them.

I’ve witnessed this more than a couple of times.

One person complained that someone brought 6 people to the party and only a $10 box of drinking glasses as a gift.

One person complained each time there was a boxed gift to be opened and not an envelope.

One person looked with disgust at a piece of unstitched suit fabric that someone had presented to them as a wedding gift. She gingerly handed the fabric over to her embarassed husband…

I cannot tell you how many idiotic incidences like this I have witnessed.

And for those that are saying those who can afford will give you money and those who can’t will give you a boxed gift…that’s not always true. We have, more than once, given a boxed gift. Usually an item of gold. Yes, it was a boxed gift…but likely more expensive than any of the envelopes they received.

Thats a whole different issue too, just take what ppl bring, good or bad, what you like or hate, whether there was sincere thought behind it or just someone going through the motions. and let it rest and let it be.

I dislike the desi weddings where everything is about comparing, competition, what did the grooms fmily give, what did the bride wear, how was the food, what was the venue, this was worse than that, oh the splurged on this, who gave what, who wore what to the event, …

In general with the amount of negative energy around these events I wonder howcome there is no haatha pai at the events