Re: No boxed gifts please
I am not for Jahez of any sort or form. Its difficult to convince the parents of bride. If registry works for you then great. How is that different than $$? Gifts cost money at the end of the day. Also, Its also true about mother-in-law picking stuff from registry. I seen it being done.
No matter what is written on the card, its understood that no gift or money is necessary. You might have seen that people still bring stuff that is not on the registry. People brought us boxes even when it was written not to. They are all friends & family anyway so its all good.
^ sorry, but i think thats another MIL stereotype... if registries are dumb, then what about all the stuff bride's get from their parents in bari/jaheyz? like all the cookware and other household stuff? she shouldn't be getting that either?
as i said, gifts are a bonus in addition to the guests' presence at your wedding, not a requirement. so if you get something, great! if you don't, too bad for you. i mean, if presents are so important, than you should just invite the people you are close to instead of 500 barely-known cousins, and then you can talk to them openly and request what you want.
and frankly, registries are fun! i had a blast doing mine, because you know what, you're picking out all this awesome stuff for your place and its like shopping with someone else's money because if your family spreads the word, theres a good chance people will get it for you! i mean, someone bought me a $500 stand-mixer, for cryin' out loud! all my Eid's came on the same day when i looked at my registry and it said "Item bought" :D