Re: No boxed gifts please
^ ugh. just when i thought it couldn't get worse...
i got a wedding shower invitation with something like this: "your presence is gift enough but if you insist on bringing something, please consider a contribution to their tuscan honeymoon."
sorry, but that is so passive-aggressive to me because its coming from the maid of honor (who hosted the shower), and no matter how its worded, is still a request for cash because you know nobody is going to show up empty-handed. all this has done is cornered people into not bringing a gift from the registry (even though the couple had a registry) and instead compelled us to come with money. how is giving a motive for how they're going to spend the cash gift a reasonable excuse for blatantly requesting a cash gift?? i don't care if you go on vacation with it, but i DO care that i'm being asked to bring money, even if its worded in a roundabout way.
honestly, things like this just take the pleasure and graciousness out of gift-giving. i've seen similar invites for aqeeqa's with requests for "future education funds" -- same principle and equally tacky.