A family I know got their daughter married in like wisconsin but the wedding was in Cali (since that's where the girl's from) and they said something like, "no boxed gifts please, as the couple are in transition" or something like that. But it made sense. Why pay a crazy amount to haul stuff across the country. It wasn't a big deal, because there was a logical reason for it.
That's fine in my opinion. In fact people should realize it and not give huge gifts like that to people who are out of town. I always face this when I visist pakistan and people give me things like metal vases !!!??/ and expect me to carry them back with me.