imtiz
September 21, 2010, 10:57am
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Re: no backbone?
UPDATE
OK, so since my last post, I took on board all the sound advice that was given by my fellow guppies and remained silent. I didnt react to their tantrums, nor did I answer back. I just stayed quiet and listened, waiting for them to become tired… Which is what happend; they shouted and screamed and moaned at me but then went quiet.
So I was getting back to my life, enjoying the things I did etc etc and out of blue, guess who contacts me? The guy himself, who I was supposed to be marrying! He plucked up the courage to contact me, telling me how in these few weeks apart he has realised that he loves me a lot and wants to marry me. He says his older brother shouldnt have said all those things to me, he was in the wrong and that from now on, he will do as I say. He says this relationship will not be left so open for others to interfere, instead it will be between me and him only!
he admits he was in the wrong to try and stop me from seeing my friends and stop work, and says he was influenced by his borther! He has now realised that there is nothing wrong with this and he wants to let me live happily.
He says he will buy his own house and will start his own business, as he does not want me to think that he is relying on his brother.
Guppies, what do I do??? I have said it all along that its not the guy, its his older brother and my sister who I have a probelm with! I said the same thing to him also! I told him he let go of my hand when he should have been there, protecting me from his brothers attacks! I told him I can not trust him anymore, but he keeps asking for another chance. He did also say that despite his brother is in the wrong, he wants me to apologise to the BIL and my older sister and forgive and forget and move on…
What is your take on this?
This *could *also be the new plan of your BIL. After unsuccessfully trying out other ways, he might have asked his brother to contact you. Things have already been complicated enough. Listen to what your mother said . The sooner you would do that the better it would be for the peace of family.