Re: no backbone?
Gloss…like Reha said, this is only the beginning. So just recite your duas, grit your teeth, and be patient.
And do not allow yourself to be baited.
Let your sister and BIL make their threats. I highly doubt any of their attempts at slinging mud will be successful…in fact, I’m pretty sure that any dirt they try to fling on you will only come back on them. Because according to everything you’ve said so far, they aren’t exactly saints. You have explained that your sister hasn’t helped you and your mother out since your father passed and she got married. You told us that your sis and BIL have interfered with your time with the kids in revenge for petty things. Your BIL has gone through private texts and said embarrassing things about you. You BIL and sis didn’t speak to your mother for 2 years over another petty issue. They go to all lengths to make someone miserable against whom they hold a grudge. And so many other things that paint them in a less than stellar light…
Do you think people are blind? Just because they don’t say anything, it doesn’t mean that they don’t notice. Trust me, if they have been doing all the stuff that you say they have, people aren’t stupid. They’ve picked up on it. So if your BIL and sis are going on a campaign to defame your character, it’s not going to be easy. Because people know you, and they know them. They know you mind your own business and have a good reputation. And they know that the exact opposite is true of your sister and BIL.
So keep to the high ground. Don’t respond to their verbal attacks. And don’t say anything bad about them in anybody’s presence…that too will speak volumes about you in front of the community - the fact that you are keeping a dignified silence and they are trash talking you at ever opportunity.
And most of all, look to Allah SWT. For He sees everything and He makes sure that the truth will out and that every one of us get precisely what we deserve.