no backbone?

[diamond321]

Re: no backbone?

@Rstar

Gloss Blush Liner, i dont post much, but I read alot. I think you did the right thing. If I were you, I would rather be alone forever than married to abusive drama-bazy my whole life. You are smarter than your sister. Your sister’s family sounds so toxic and Im afraid your sister goes along with their behavior. My own sister got married to a very village (jahil) type of family. My parents to this day wished they did more research before tying her rishta. My sister is very educated got a masters in phsycology and a professor in college. Her husband and his family told her to quit her job and sit at home, and pop babies. She prayed so hard to have a son, or else. My brother in law is a complete nag, nothing is ever good enough. He lost his job last year, and my sister’s susraal told my sister to go back to work. well she hasnt worked in 7 years, so there is a major gap in her resume. She only found a job as a substitute teacher, and they look down at her, and say things like “education kar ke bhe temporary job milli he”, and her husband still doesnt have a job. Its just torture type of behavior, constant jahalat, that I feel bad for my sister. My BIL asked my sister to cut ties with my brother, because my brother senses abuse, so my bro does tell my BIL that he should treat my sister better (but in a nice izat manner), but my BIL is threatened by my brother. So now my own sister does not talk to my brother anymore, its been like 2 years. IF my sister is at our house, she would not acknowledge my brother. At first my brother was bothered by it, but now he could care less about her ignorant ways.

Rstar- I feel for your sister. Most of the time the whole purpose behind making bahu quit her job is to have full control over her. They do it by taking financial independence away from their bahu takay baad main jaisa jee chahay salook karo …in a way parinday kay paar kat do takay woh majboor ho jaye aur chah kar bhi urh na sakay.

What is worse is that these husbands and inlaws do not have a problem with a working bahu/ wife before marriage but after shaadi they just force her to quit.

Your sister is majboor to ignore her brother. I really hope Allah app ki behan ki mushkil asaan karay.