no backbone?

[Reha]

Re: no backbone?

@diamond321

Gloss- Your only mistake was that you did not listen to your mom. But apart from that I think you did justice to your own self and made the right decision for YOU :k:

The way he started controlling you was abnormal. I felt I was reading a description of someone I was once related to and believe me it’s a pain of every second to live with such a person. They forcing you to quit job was waaayyyy too much, you agreed to get married not to become a slave.

I firmly believe you have taken a right step. I am so happy to read that you did not let another toxic relationship enter in your life.

As your sister and BIL. I would suggest that move away from them. If you can then move to a different city where you may also find peace . Move on and give them space & time to move on too. They should not verbally abuse you it’s wrong but I can understand that you are majboor. Time is the biggest healer , things will get better. But please if it’s possible relocate to another city.

:k:

Brilliant.

Your mom saw this from a mile away and warned you. Next time, listen to her.

@GlossBlushLiner

they are also making mockery of my emotions… all those texts that me and him had exchanged, my BIL has his phone now and has gone through our texts emails etc and openly makes fun of me…

Its embarassing isnt it? It will be for a while but you have to take it and be brave about it. The thing is, family is family and no one can change that. Your sister may be blinded by her husband’s feelings because she spends 24 hours a day with him but that doesnt mean she is your enemy. Dont let a stranger get in the middle of you two…he has no place between you and your sister.

Let them say what they want, do what they want. You maintain a good relationship with your mother, make efforts towards your sister and ignore the rest of the BS because thats all it is. We dont get all the answers all the time. Why people do the things they do? Human beings are complicated species and sometimes do things irrationally too. No one is perfect. Why did your sister not support you? you might find out and you might not. The positive side to this is you were saved from a disaster happening. Im sure you miss the guy but Im sure you wouldnt advise your sister to marry a guy like that, would you?