Re: no backbone?
she painted a very pretty picture actually and dismissed my initial concerns about our realtionship as sisters being affected by it all if things go pear shaped. my sis and BIL both promised that there would be no interference from them! but things became so bad, that it reached to an extent where BIL would reply to my texts from his younger brothers phone… BIL feared that his brother will become a “joru ka ghulaam”, so he felt he ahd to step in and guide his brother about what should be said and how things should be done! Initially his younger brother would alugh it off as a joke, but then it really started to affect him and I felt that at most times he HAD to prove to my BIL that he wont be a joru ka ghulam and that he is the one who will remain in control and to prove that he tried to control who i met, where i went, what time i got home!! It gets worse, he would go through my phone and check my messages and call logs!!! The whole time this was happening, i was saying to him that he doesnt need to prove anything to his brother and that for once he should use his own brain and not rely on BIL to make all the decisons and call all the shots!!! But what did this idiot do?? He only went and showed all my messages to BIL, my sister hit the roof saying I am trying to turn the brothers against each other!!! blah blah blah!! When in actual fact, all i had said was that its best if we make the decisons based on our understanding of each other because it will be a relationship between me and him, and not with his brother!!!