When did you guys have your nikkah? On barat day or b4?
In our family, as in immediate family like for all my siblings we have had the nikkahs done even b4 mayoun ceremony. Then the couple can be together at the ceremony without any issue. And we always have the nikkahs on friday as we consider it to be a very precious and special day for us.
I also think its nice to have nikkah done not on barat day cuz so many people around and i think nikkah should be done among close family members where they get to be part of your special moment. On barat day already too much is happening and i dont think its a good idea but i still see most going for nikkah on barat day.
My nikkah will be on Mehindi day, which is day before the wedding day. I didn't like that idea at first since i always wanted to be in red bridal wear when i sign the paper; however, now i think it kinda of good to get done with it with close family members.
Hmm every wedding i've been too, they all have it dun on the barat day, Umm i wud prefer mine on the barat day too, I think its a good feeling to show everyone im married ON my wedding day. But our Mehndis have always been seperate as in bride has hers and groom has his seperate days. I like it like that, More fun :D
Hm in my family its kinda mixed..my sister had her nikaah 2 yrs before the wedding. but my elder sister had it on the baraat day..now for my brothers wedding the nikaah will be a seperate occasion as they want their mehndi together and the elders feel that its better if they have the nikaah done first so they can have the mehndi together w/out any issues..id always thought the nikaah should be on the actual day but even if it is before i guess thats good too as you get to enjoy that as a seperate small function with ur immediate family.
Im not being rude, and i dont mean to offend anyone, And forgiv me for my ignorance.. But i have a question, When you get a nikkah, then *2years later *you get your rukhsati , Are you allowed to go see your husband? And stay with him? Or do you wait for your rukhsati, even tho ur married? Im confused.
Please shed some light someone.
^ Well the whole of point of having Nikah before that actually Rukhsati is that you can see your husband whenever you want and stay with him aswell although its not quite acceptable in desi culture still but its absolutely allowed it Islam
I will be having my Nikah by end of this year InshAllah and rukhsati after some 2 years just to make things Halal btween me and him =)
*Well i had my nikkah when i was 16 and 2 yrs later *
*i had my rukhsati when i was 18 :) *
But in my family usually we have the nikkah say on a sunday
and the rest of the week we have choor, moyoun, galiyan, mehndi and then barat day
so its quite fun leading upto the day! :)
When you had your nikkah, Did you get to stay with ur hubby? Or did you have to wait for the rukhsati? If you wasnt allowed, Why not? And how did you feel?
^ Well the whole of point of having Nikah before that actually Rukhsati is that you can see your husband whenever you want and stay with him aswell although its not quite acceptable in desi culture still but its absolutely allowed it Islam
I will be having my Nikah by end of this year InshAllah and rukhsati after some 2 years just to make things Halal btween me and him =)
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Exactly, thats what i was tryna say..
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but its absolutely allowed it Islam
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Exactly! So why must you wait for a rukhsati??
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I will be having my Nikah by end of this year InshAllah and rukhsati after some 2 years just to make things Halal btween me and him
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So when you are nikkah-fied, Will you stay at your hubbys? Or wait till 2 years?
we dont have pro with it,
can stay together out or in...day or not
love it no issues for usssssssssss
so we enjoy best till wedding as we did nikah...
but still cant wait for my wedding inshallah
So when you are nikkah-fied, Will you stay at your hubbys? Or wait till 2 years?
there are several reasons for not having the rukhsati at this point..one of it is my studies, I do not think I will be as focused because of having all those responsibilities of husband, household etc.
both of us will be starting from scratch career wise and we want to work to save some money so that when we start living together I could take sometime off from work and enjoy married life
in my family the nikah is usually on the baraat day.
for those who had their nikah on a seperate day to barat/rukhsati which do u celebrate as ur wedding anniversary? the day u did nikah or the day u 'officially' leave to be with ur hubby and start married life?
there are several reasons for not having the rukhsati at this point..one of it is my studies, I do not think I will be as focused because of having all those responsibilities of husband, household etc.
both of us will be starting from scratch career wise and we want to work to save some money so that when we start living together I could take sometime off from work and enjoy married life
Ok, hun, So when you get you've had your nikkah, Can you go to see your hubby whenever you want tho? And stay with him? Even tho your married it wud be allowed but because of the culture you wait for the rukhsati right?
Has anyone had a nikkah and then stayed with their husband but then after a couple of years had their wedding?
And I agree with your reasoning Amina- desi culture is weird man, they expect you to treat your husband like a fiance even though Islamically there's no such thing as a rukhsati, and once you're nikkah-ed, you're proper wedded.
There's nothing more to rukhsati than a reception and going off in a car together. You're Mr. & Mrs. as soon as you sign those papers. I guess it depends on the family too and the reasons for a couple not choosing to live together.
