Nikkah..

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Okay this isnt’ a typical thread, but i couldn’t come up wtih a better/shorter title :slight_smile:
My question is to those who have had a nikkah and then did the rukhsati a great deal of time later for whatever reason. I know there are several of you who’ve done that. If you don’t mind sharing, I’d like to know how the actual ceremony/function was? Was it very simple or elaborate? At home, or in a hall? Did you (as brides :blush: ) get ready at a parlour or at home etc?
My mom and I are in conflict, she says nikkah is just very very plain, and the whole inviting ppl over, serving food, but mainly teh getting dressed up:grumpy: only happens during the shadi/rukhsati. I’m just curious as to how most nikkahs go nowadays..:halo: :slight_smile:

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umm...it all depends on you really. for example, when my cousin got his nikkah done, both of them got dressed up...but only like fancy clothes. nothing elaborate. the nikkah was done in the morning. the bride and groom went away to the studio to get some pictures done. in the evening, the bride's family threw a little dinner of sorts for the groom's family, and basically in that only the adults in Lahore went, and ofcourse the groom's family, my khala's family and us (that's cuz we were visiting)

the actual dhamaka stuff happened like 3 months later.

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Well our main point of conflict is the getting dressed up and stuff lol. She said on her nikkah, her saas brought her a duputta and thats it..and i saidnowadays thas nothing, brides DO get dressed up, they go to a parlour, get their hair n stuff done, wear a nice lengha and set, get professional pix taken , all that. AND i want to invite my friends, and for that we’ll have to rent out a hall because our house will not fit everyone. I have an idea of how I want the nikkah to go, I wouldn’t say it’s anything wasteful and bad, but we’ll c if it goes that way. :blush:

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Sara I think it all depends on various things, like if you are doing it at home, or in a hall, or at the masjid. There's no harm in getting dressed up. I can't speak from experience, but the nikkah's I have seen done at home, the majority have been pretty simple.

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Sara I think you should keep it simple. Sure, get dressed up and stuff...but on the light side of it all. Almost like a mangani thing. Nikkah should be more intimate than a rukhsati. On your rukhsati then, you can go all out.

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well a nikkah i went to was elaborate...nikkah is the main thing basically
the dulhan got dressed at a salon and ppl were invited in a hall

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GTG too bad, i already read it :mocking:

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Go all out in the Nikkah because you might not be able to fit into your shaadi ka jora on the Rukhsati in case you get pregnant. Hai na :blush: ?

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LOL yeah good that you read it.. it was for you only anyway :stuck_out_tongue:

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Yah pregnant-looking from all the cupcakes and cakes and icecream :bummer:

Anyway, nikkah dress and rukhsati dress are totally different arent htey :bummer:

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yup. Totally diff. Its cool..dress up both times, but you should definitely wear whatever you want during the Nikkah cause you're getting married

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Yeah definitely.

Anyway, dad said i can have the nikkah my way :dixsi: :balley:

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when is the big day? (btw i still haven't found that link)

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well i had my nikkah almost a year before my rukhsati (mainly cuz my hubby was in pak at the time of the nikkah)...i actually got all dressed up and my cousin did my makeup....but it was all at home....even had a mehndi the day before for my nikkah...

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Very good thread Sara i wanted to know the same thing! My mum also said the same thing she said that it should be very simple and that i should do my makeup & hair my self and wear a nice shalwar kameez and that there will be about 15-20 people. But we are also in conflict coz i want a marquee in the garden with nice decorations, round tables, flowers and a little stage, i wnat there to be about 40-50 people....but mum says that that's a wedding not a nikkah....they want it soo simple that they want to do it in two weeks but i want to wait after Ramadan so i can sort all these things out.

I definitely want professional pics taken and get my hair and makeup done.....not sure about having a video made though what do you thing about that?

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^yes have a video done, I had my nikkah done very professionaly, was at a palour and wore red dress. (Had profesional pics and video taken)

I love looking at my Nikkah video, to see my henna and red nailed hands signing the Nikkah papers and him doing dua after the nikkah, its just so priceless, all this would have not been remembered, if we had not taken the video and I would not have seen how he looked at the time of signing the papers, Nikah is the real wedding, why do ppl forget this.

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i never thought of this...great advice....thank you. i think i will have a video done.. you're right special moments need to be captured.

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I think you should at least get a little decked out. It is your wedding day, after all! Think about how dressed up people get nowadays for mehndis and mangnis. Even other people's events! One of my cousins had a really huge mangni, nikkah, and ruksati (because her parents wanted to do big events). On the other hand, my mumani had a small nikkah in her own home cuz they did the nikkah early for immigration reasons and she just wore a nice shalwar kamiz.

Maybe for the nikkah invite all the people that you actually know and want to invite (because usually the wedding dinner/ruksati will have hundreds of aunties and uncles you barely recognize). You could do it at home and have a more relaxed atmosphere, or in a small hall. Maybe don't make it as big as the ruksati, but at least invite the people who are important to both bride and groom.

As for you, of course get dressed up! This is your chance to try different fashions for each event. Maybe a churidaar for the nikkah and a gharara for ruksati. Or sharara or patiala, what ever. And different colors too. How exciting!

Congrats again :D

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its all depends on every one's own situation bcz if there will b a gr88 fuction on ur wedding then nikkah can b simple..also depends on ur family customs..if there is any syszen in ur family for big gathering then its all ok othetwise nomal fuction is okk.