just wondering…i guess its traditional and sorry i dont feel that way for those who are extremely traditional or religious…but i wanted to knwo what people do nowadays for nikkahs…are girl and boy in separate rooms? or is this a thing of the past? and why? maybe in the old days but i think its sorta dumb to be completely honest.
i was in the same room as my fiance at the time and im glad. i think being in separate rooms is just ridiculous…agree or disagree? just curious
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I think that Nikah still happens while they are in separate rooms. In marriage halls, in Karachi, They have separate room for the bride. Bride come to the main hall and sit with dulha after Nikah
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Mine nikah is done in the same room as my hubby.... BUTT i had a ghoonghat for the kari saab and the other men lekin after nikah my ghoonghat was gone......
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i agree!
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i think being in separate rooms is just ridiculous...........agree or disagree? just curious
i wouldnt care one way or another.
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i agree!
u mean with queen?
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i've seen it done every which way. in the hall, in the masjid, with the bride present, not present. and frankly i feel a little bit uncomfortable with the nikkah being done in front of everyone. i mean the khutba's nice and all, and outlines the rights of wife and husband, but at the same time, i dunno i just rather not listen to the whole how much haq meher you are giving/recieving, and the other stuff. it just gives an excuse for the aunties to gossip, that's all. besides, you need just a few witnesses for the nikkah, why have the rest of the wedding party view it as well?
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I personally dont think there is anything wrong with being in the same room as ur fiance or husband-to-be on mehndi/mayoon and same goes for nikkah time.
I think being in seperate rooms is your choice...I have seen videos of weddings where they have done nikkah/shadi both ways
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hun do u hav a prob w/ everything desis do? :p
I love reading ur posts.. :D
Anyways, even if the original meaning is gone, it's still quite charming when the bride is separate from the groom..
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just wondering..........i guess its traditional and sorry i dont feel that way for those who are extremely traditional or religious....but i wanted to knwo what people do nowadays for nikkahs.............are girl and boy in separate rooms? or is this a thing of the past? and why? maybe in the old days but i think its sorta dumb to be completely honest.
i was in the same room as my fiance at the time and im glad. i think being in separate rooms is just ridiculous...........agree or disagree? just curious
I have heard that this separate room thing is false anyway...I heard according to islamic rules bride and groom have to be in the same room and they have to hear each others "kabul hai"...
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The way our Nikaah was done was that they came to my house first to ask me, shortly before they arrived, my hubby had gone to the masjid for his nikaah. He walked there in procession with all his friends and our family..........all this with all the gorah's looking on (we've got it on VIDEO and all the stares, people stopping etc is hilarious!)
Anyway, back to the topic, they asked me first and then went to the masjid to ask hubby......we women listened to the WHOLE thing on the masjid transmittor....it was kind of nice, only wish we'd recorded it................
I haven't yet been to a nikaah where the bride/groom have been in the same room...........
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I would prefer to be in a separate room. I would be a little uncomfortable in the same room
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hehe i agree :halo:
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i would like to know is how does ur NIKAAH work i mean let me tell u about myself and that is i will b marrying a muslim guy and i am a SIKH which ur eye balls must b popping out by now ............but know need to worry girlz im ready to convert and alot of my friends say im losing my mind bu i would only lose my mind if i was crazy RIGHT!!! well im not im normal like everyone else and i m looking very much forward n converting and i just need to know the scoop in whatis expected from me the day of my NIKKAH my bf would like me to wear a lengha which i hve no pb.....and i would like to learn how to speak urdu and would loveo learn how to write ur lovely language and i have broken all my ties 4 this one man i love to my heart and i m really and will b honoured to b a muslim and he has already picked a name for me and i love it............................so plz give me all the inside details, the scoop i need & should know about what is expected and how i m suppose to b have ............hehehehehehehehe...............like a human i hope............hehehehehehehe do u guysput mehendi on ur hands cause hey i have no clue what s ever...............thank u all for ur responses which i m surely i will get ................thank u all again.................
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I have never seen a bride and the groom sitting together for the nikkah.. the imam and the elders fill out the form, fix the haq mehr amount, and then let the girl sign the papers followed by the guy signing the papers and then the dua!
Nikkah used to be a family function.. in my case, it was done at our house, I did wear lehnga n all that, had mehndi on as well, pics and the video was made, but still it was a simple ceremony with just very close relatives a few family friends.. BUT one of my friend's nikkah was like a lil wedding.. they had a mehndi/dholki a day before nikkah where the girl wore yellow outfit, invited lots of people, and the nikkah itself was a huge ceremony followed by exchanging rings etc. THe girl was decked out like a bride but then again the actual process of ijab-o qabool happened in different rooms!
It'a a matter of personal choice, I guess!!
ps: I am talking about the nikkah function when there is no rukhsati involved though and it takes place after a few months/years!!
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i dont think there is anything wrong with the girl and the boy been seperate for the nikaah i am getting married in dcember and i am planning on having my nikaah on the mehindi day before the mehindi ceremoney although my mehindi is going to be together, the nikaah will take place sepeately. because the nikaah involves the molvi ad the elders i personnal would feel uncomfortable in all the elders and i also thinks it nice to have a mixture opf tradition as well and non tradition at weddings :D
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hey madeehap thats a really gud idea im also planning 2 have my nikah on the mehndi day... ill have 2 tell me family now lol n khusboo bless ya im not marrid yet so cant help you but just red ur littl mesg n thort it was very sweet... all the best for all the brides 2 b there!!
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this is how i feel abt the pakistani shadis.. and the nikah ceremony.. the dulha and dulhan never get to interact with eachother the whole time .. only a few bit of families do the kheer chatai wo bhi all the way in the end of the ceremony ya phir ghar la kr ..
and the nikkah would b far better done in the same room .. atleast there would be a feeling of getting married together ..
i agree that it is some ridiculous riwaj that they stay separate at this so so big moment of their lives..
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just a lil question.. n excuse me if i sound stupid..
all the marriages i have ever attended/seen have been in either of the following ways:
1. nikaah done before n then rukhsati done after a few months/yrs..
2. nikaah done on the wedding/rukhsati day...
but recently i came to heard of this third way.. where nikaah is done a few days before the rukhsati.. or on the mehndi day...
i personally dun understand the logic behind having it a day or a few dayz before rukhsati..
having it a few months or yrs before makes sense.. cuz mayb one of them is still studying blah blah...
but a few days or the day b4 does not make sense to me.... can anyone tell me wat's the logic behind this??? excuse me if i sound stupid.. mayb im missing something here or am not aware of some point.. but y do certain ppl chose to do it this way....?????
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Hey Pathani Khuri das good, u got anything planned as to how its gona take place im getting more and more nervous as the tyms coming closer.
Wish1988 i dont no abt other ppl but i am having my nikhaa on the mehindi day simply because on the day of the braat nothin is on tym andsome tyms the braat does not come till late and then having to do the nikhaa drags things on longer on the day. hope thats answered ur question :biggthumb