ok not 18 but u can say a young age? why is it frowned upon? even my friend who is 18 got engaged yesterday to someone who is 25. everyone is after her and asking her why so early. the same thing happened to me! question is why?
i mean nikkah/mangni is not rukhsati so why the disapproval from different people?
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I really don't know what purpose Mangni serves. When a person looks at it from Islamic perspective, you still cannot talk to each other or go out with each other even after this so-called "Mangni" unless you perform Nikah.
Having said that, 18 is not a young age to get married. I know many people who married at "young" age and are glad and living happily. When Islam approves it and allows you to marry without any strictness, then I don't think disapproaval of other people really matters!
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exactly nemo, when islam approves it why do people raise their eyebrows everytime they hear 18! now i am no longer 18 but it was pretty bad. i feel bad for the girl you know, all the friends are after her, maleeha pagal hogayi ho itni jaldi mangni etc etc
nemo even if forget the islamic perspective, people still dont understand and argue with you etc etc
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But you cannot forget Islamic perspective if you fear Allah and follow Him :). If a person is good, he/she will not argue with you once you tell them that Islam approves it so who are they to disapprove it. But if a person is deeth, then he/she won't understand and the girl should not worry about the people.
PS - What's up with openeing thread in Life every other day now?
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well if we dont consider the islamic part here i am not in favour of getting married or engaged at 18 cuz thats a really deilcate age u r not that mature and u can get into wrong stuff or take wrong decisions...its not necessary everyone is as mature as u r aisha....usually girls n boys @ 18 r very immature i believe one should be atleast 20 when getting nikafied.married or engaged
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nemo jee its just that this kinda stuff comes in my mind alot these days...lol
yeah true we cannot forget btw how come u online?
but nemo its annoying! auntiyaan and friends are always on your case
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well if we dont consider the islamic part here i am not in favour of getting married or engaged at 18 cuz thats a really deilcate age u r not that mature and u can get into wrong stuff or take wrong decisions...its not necessary everyone is as mature as u r aisha....usually girls n boys @ 18 r very immature i believe one should be atleast 20 when getting nikafied.married or engaged
i really appreciate that you said that i am mature:)
really have u seen my friend and her fiance, my friend does not even look like 18. anyways so u think 20 is the right age?
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Mujhe to kabhi aisi koi Aunty nahi mili jisey main mooN tor jawab de sakoo. Maybe because my family knows me and knows what I will say so they make me avoid this stuff 
Why am I online? Umm because I just woke up awhile ago for sehri and decided to check my e-mail and post for 5-10 minutes before going back to sleep 
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nemo are u engaged?
lol auntiyaan yaha bohat hai, har waqt mera sar khati hain and they are like kaisa ja raha hai waghaira waghaira:rolleyes:
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yeah aisha and thats cuz now that i have crossed my 18 i feel i was really young at that time my priorities were very different and the way i used to think waisai in a way 18 is a good age to get married too cuz then u r not THAT mature to take ur own decisions and get independant that creates trouble in ur married life duhhh
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AIDz- antyian r jealous from u. 
next time kaheyain to khena, “app kaheain to phone ker k poochoon” 
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Sabriya has been chasing me with the same question from last couple of days and I’ll give you the same answer I gave her: 
Yes, I am engaged (in some work)
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lol… is anjanay ko abhi kisi nay ja’na nahi 
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meri mangni 18 saal ka tha jab hoyi thi , aur mainne apni beewi ko aik saal baad talaaq day di thi, kiyoNkay mai us waqt kissi gori kay saath set tha. Doosri beewi ko 21 saal ki umar mai chorra, teesri khud bhaag gayi, aur 4th one ko khud dhakkay day kar nikala kiyoNkay wo bhaag nahi rahi thi. Magar ab mai mature ho chukka hooN, inshallah agli beewi ko pyar aur hifazat say rakhooNga
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Seedhi tarha apni ID batao taa ke doodh ka doodh aur pani ka pani ho jaye 
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meri mangni 18 saal ka tha jab hoyi thi , aur mainne apni beewi ko aik saal baad talaaq day di thi, kiyoNkay mai us waqt kissi gori kay saath set tha. Doosri beewi ko 21 saal ki umar mai chorra, teesri khud bhaag gayi, aur 4th one ko khud dhakkay day kar nikala kiyoNkay wo bhaag nahi rahi thi. Magar ab mai mature ho chukka hooN, inshallah agli beewi ko pyar aur hifazat say rakhooNga
ab tumsai koi shadi nahi karaigi cuz eik tau tum 2nd hand bulkay 4th hand hogai ho doosray by now u must have been declared phsycho....abhe tum nicker sai bahir nahi niklay tau shadi kia khaak karogai
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mard kabhi 2nd hand nahi hota.
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well if we dont consider the islamic part here i am not in favour of getting married or engaged at 18 cuz thats a really deilcate age u r not that mature and u can get into wrong stuff or take wrong decisions...its not necessary everyone is as mature as u r aisha....usually girls n boys @ 18 r very immature i believe one should be atleast 20 when getting nikafied.married or engaged
well let's look at it the other way around as well...... When a girl/guy is older.....she/he can be less willing to compromise, more stubborn, less likely to adjust well.......in other words....just plain ol' set in their ways.
There are pro's and con's to both.
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angel eyes can u elaborate, i am sorry i didnt get you
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Aisha_in_dubai: I dont think there´s any problem 2 get engaged in such a young age like 18 as long as the girl/boy r mature. I know ppl who got married in that age and r happy today, but in my opinion I think its 2 early to get married in age of 18, well what I think.
I´ve done nikkah but not rukhsathi yet when I was 19 and me and my hubby are we both r cousins. Hayee patha nahi kya kya musibat uthani paari thi mujhe nikkah ke baad itni saari sakhti I felt like I done engagement not nikkah.
and trust me.. logo ko tu bimari hai tang karne ki, haye yeh hogaya, haye woh hogaya, haye yeh kya kardiya, I mean this is so normal sometimes people just cant join other in their khushian or gham. If ur friend is happy then let her b happy n enjoy 
btw, my name is aisha 2 :).