Re: Nikkah is MARRIAGE
There is already so much confusion in our lives regarding nikah and marriage, and you guys are trying your level best to make it more complex by doing milawat of western practices 
We need to make our elders aware of our ‘rights’ after the nikah ;). They all be after us and say: ‘tauba tauba aj kal ki nasal kitna bigar gai hai’ 
I think we have to follow our society’s norms (especially if they are not against Islam). Islam also teaches us to follow what our society expects from us if it remains within the limits of our religion. If anyone has any problem with the restrictions put on them after nikah, they should go for nikah + rukhsati.