Nikkah is MARRIAGE

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Re: Nikkah is MARRIAGE

@Sahar02

People legitimitely use it as a way to interact with the other sex and plan for the future without doing haram things. The problem is that people see it as if it is not as serious as “real” marriage. And if problems occur during the nikkah period, they are more comfortable breaking it off.

The other thing is the movements of the bride and groom become restricted after the nikkah, as parents are in the “what will people say? ruksati is not done yet” mode. And they can’t technically stop them from doing whatever they want, as they are married now. it becomes a weird, awkward state.

Completely agree. This was the case with me. As far as myself and my family were concerned, our nikkah = marriage. But as far as his parents were concerned, especially his mother, it was no more than an engagement (she even introduced me as his fiance after the nikkah). Those few weeks post the nikkah where I stayed in there house were *very *weird. When I came back, people kept asking when the Rukhsati is.

Nikkah in Islam is very simple, you don’t even need an Imam to perform it. Even Walima isn’t a farz; it’s good that people do this sunnah but it’s not in the same vein as it was intended. In fact, Islamically, if there is a gathering taking place after the nikkah, this constitutes a walima. People have constructed all this other stuff for god knows what reason. Like so what if you have the nikkah and don’t start living together?? Why should that mean you still have to be strangers with one another?