Nikkah is MARRIAGE

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Re: Nikkah is MARRIAGE

Why people are nikahfied rather than Engagement? If that is the question then the answer is so that boy and girl can meet easily and no one will criticize them in our society. You all know that boys and girls not only talk on phone after engagement but they want to meet as well. AS a fiancee’s people think that is wrong. So they go for Nikah option so there would be no issues in future. I have seen a family where a girl’s father was very irresponsible man and living in interior Sindh and family was here in our neighbors. In her mother’s life she got a proposal from her class fellow. But before thing got finalized, mother died. So after her death Elders of her family (Taya, chacha) decided to get them nikahfied so that guy can come and go any time and people wouldn’t talk about them (at that time girl couldn’t got married means rukhsati as she had a younger sisters as her responsibility). Nyways but still she got stares from neighbors when he came at their place.

@Ashy2010

Yes it is. But it is considered more like halal dating in our society. If the husband is not meeting his wife’s expenses and only takes her for outings, it is like dating. He should meet her expenses and and consider his wife his responsibility. I have not seen a single nikahfied husband sending monthly amount as expenses to his wife. When I asked my aunty why my cousin’s nikahfied husband is not sending her the money, she said: ‘aray beta kahan hota hai’. And they were hesitant in asking the husband for expenses also.

If expenses are paid by husband in any case, all well and good.

I think Ashy it is girls fault if husband is not paying her anything. If girls can discuss anything with her husband including future planning and kids, why don’t they discuss their right with him. Why they don’t ask him to pay her monthly allowance. Girls should discuss this with him.