Nikkah is MARRIAGE

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Re: Nikkah is MARRIAGE

@stoppit

erm… but they can have a rukhsati and still not consummate, so then no iddat period. who is to prove it that just because they had a rukhsati there was consummation? you’d have to take the couple’s word for it.

sorry but to me, nikkah give you the rights and then proving/disproving consummation is no different from after rukhsati, unless in the extreme case that the couple have not been left alone at all and therefore never had the chance. and then, in that case, it was no one’s right to stop them being together anyway. the right to consummate has been given by the nikkah. do you see what i mean?

{why you edit after my post }

Sorry … I re-read what I write and it didn’t sound right so I modified it … What I am arguing about is not that rukhsati has any place in Islam, but I am saying there is a position in Islam for delaying the consumation of the marriage after the nikkah … and that this delay can be for up to several years.

Also I was using a bit of reflective thinking to say that perhaps the family of the girl want to see if she is compatible with her new hubby before her having to give up her “kawari” card …

And the nearest thing we have to this delay is to separate the rukhsati rasm from the nikkah … It is not right for us to condemn this behaviour just as much as it is not right for us to say that this must be the practice.

Rukhsati doesn’t prove anything yeah I got that … but it gives the people a sense of personal satisfaction … I agree with one thing though that if the nikkah is done the couple should not be prevented from getting together… this would be wrong … but if the couple don’t click then delaying the rukhsati can be a blessing as well - especially for the girl. She gets to keep her “kawari card”