Re: Nikkah ho gaya… but…
yeah take a cold cold shower before going to sleep and stop following me around in every thread. 
WHY DO U EVEN HAVE TO EVEN WAIT FOR A GOD DAMN RUKSATI!??!?!!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
WHY IS CULTURE BEFORE EVERYTHING!!! EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
MB has a point. You are married man. Your parents have no right to say anything. Our religion doesn't stop you from consummating marriage. It is sunnah to consummate your marriage after your nikkah anyway. Just go tiger..get over it!
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Firenze, I'm in the same boat. I had my nikaah last July and will have the rukhsati thus July, I'A.
Long distance relationships are tough. But trust me, time will fly. My husband used to complain and I told him, you've spent 29 years without a wife, what's another year, really?
He did come visit me for 10 days in December (around our six month mark) and the waiting period seemed much easier after that. He stayed in a hotel but we hung out with the family and on our own and it was great. Talking on the phone and via webcam is nice but talking in person is DIFFERENT.
Secondly, I agree with PCG that before rukhsati most girls would want to 'preserve' their virginity becasue it can lead us to feeling used. So if any of you guys who are reading this are ever in that position, please respect her wishes and control your feelings. Enjoy the emotional connection you guys are building and leave intimacy out of it for now unless you have a mutual agreement.
With a side of:
thank you, one sane reply at last :k: !
Re: Nikkah ho gaya… but…
thats why i m against these long term Nikkah’s unless there is some legal requirement (such as visa etc)
oh and keep listening
Re: Nikkah ho gaya... but...
lambi... judia... lambiiii ..... judaaai.......................... oh laaaaammmbii...
Re: Nikkah ho gaya... but...
Also, a lot of white friends think that my long distance relationship will be beneficial for me in the long run. It's helping me build a connection that they normally are not able to. For example, if a couple is hanging out after a romantic dinner, they usually end up....you know what I mean. In our case, the entire time we spend in each other's company (virtually) is spent communicating verbally and we learn to be pateint, tolerant, and gain a better understanding of each other's emotions. When we will be living together, we would have already crossed some of the major hurdles that most couples get to later on.
I'll say this again becasue it's important- be patient. This is recommended in every phase of your life but in THIS case, it's most important. Sometimes you'll be upset with your partner. Unfortunately you won't get to sort things out immediately. So you may end up over-thinking the problem between the time that the problem began to the next occassion on which you communicate. If you had been face-to-face, this would be less likely. So at times like that you have to show patience with your emotions.
Also, a lot of white friends think that my long distance relationship will be beneficial for me in the long run. It's helping me build a connection that they normally are not able to. For example, if a couple is hanging out after a romantic dinner, they usually end up....you know what I mean. In our case, the entire time we spend in each other's company (virtually) is spent communicating verbally and we learn to be pateint, tolerant, and gain a better understanding of each other's emotions. When we will be living together, we would have already crossed some of the major hurdles that most couples get to later on. I'll say this again becasue it's important- be patient. This is recommended in every phase of your life but in THIS case, it's most important. **Sometimes you'll be upset with your partner. Unfortunately you won't get to sort things out immediately. So you may end up over-thinking the problem between the time that the problem began to the next occassion on which you communicate. **If you had been face-to-face, this would be less likely. So at times like that you have to show patience with your emotions.
Perfecto, i went through or going through this, so the word is patience and not getting over emotional.
Now i have a question, lets say you are upset about something, what is the best way to handle it, in our case we can't talk face to face - so the only other means are telephone/internet !
Re: Nikkah ho gaya... but...
^the sort of questions u are asking,only a pot can sort u out
Re: Nikkah ho gaya... but...
It's always best to communicate face-to-face but in our case, the next best thing is via webcam. Let your partner know that you want to discuss the matter and arrange a time that suits both of you. Let her know that your intention is to sort things out becasue you don't want to continue being miserable. When communicating be open and honest and also hear her out. Be empathetic because it is just as hard for her. Whatever it is, keep the bigger picture in mind - that you are married and want to continue to have a healthy relationship. Sometimes we have to 'forgive and foget'.