Re: Nikkah ho gaya... but...
And if you want to be Islamic about it, which desis typically aren't about anything in general except hijabs and beards, a Nikkah = wedding, which means all husbandly and wifely duties go into effect after that nikkah. Not just the pleasurable benefits. In other words, she needs to live with him, and they need to start taking care of each other as soon as the nikkah ceremony is over.
Re: Nikkah ho gaya... but...
Well, yes if the set up is going to be typical like that. Dunno why people are daft enough to marry some dude who is gonna run away (from his responsibilities) anyway. Which can just as easily happen after rukhsati too. From what I've seen, the waiting period between nikkah and rukhsati is peachy, it's when the responsibilities become reality that the **** hits the fan.
As for your post above this one.. again.. it's the mentality that needs changing. Nikkah isn't just something you can throw away, just because a 'ruskhsati' hasn't been done.
Re: Nikkah ho gaya... but...
Firenze...
Join a gym
Start reading a book
Go traveling
Maintain all sorts of communication with her but do not go to see her...apke iraday naik nahin lagrahe mujhe
Join a gym....and then take a cold shower. A very cold shower.
.. :k:
every day 
every half hour for YOU .. @ the rate of your intentions 
neither me, it sucks.. 
… that some point.. … but what is your point 
i don’t wanna wait.. i don’t wanna wait… … but damn culture
what i deserve a chitter?
.. .it’s not funny …
i joined the gym …
but why all the ladies suggesting to join the gym.. does it help your husband to leave you alone?? ..
My brothers use to say about nikah "license mil gia lekin gari naheen chalanay dety"
:D
Re: Nikkah ho gaya... but...
^ hell ya .. man. .. that's the same thinking here :D
Re: Nikkah ho gaya... but...
^^ agar gaari chalaney ki 'insurance' na ho to .. you know ''accidents'' can happen ..and you gota be READY for teh responsibilities .. :@:
:k:
You’re married. You can come and go as you please.
Err, no pun intended.
Re: Nikkah ho gaya… but…
**Heres you girl friend ..
Have a fun tonight 
**
eh, even if they are (as in a period between when you get married and when you actually start playing house together), no one has the right to stop you seeing each other and doing your business. it's that mentality that needs sorting out.
i agree.
poor you...!
Re: Nikkah ho gaya... but...
Iam sure if you've come this far, you're willing to go further
(I've just realised thats a line from the Shawshank Redemption...so um...go watch that movie!)
Iam sure if you've come this far, you're willing to go further
(I've just realised thats a line from the Shawshank Redemption...so um...go watch that movie!)
yes after watching shawshank redemption top class movie a classic-must watch it dont mean that you try to escape ny and end up where you want to .. :D
Re: Nikkah ho gaya… but…
And if you want to be Islamic about it, which desis typically aren't about anything in general except hijabs and beards, a Nikkah = wedding, which means all husbandly and wifely duties go into effect after that nikkah. Not just the pleasurable benefits. In other words, she needs to live with him, and they need to start taking care of each other as soon as the nikkah ceremony is over.
Hmmm... PCG you and this site have me hating our desi mentality a lot more than I did before!!! Can't tell if that's a good thing, or bad...... But I completely agree with the above statement!
When’s the Rukhsati? And if you knew culture would hold you back why didnt you just do the rukhsati straight away? And dude seriously, is it really that hard to control yourself?
I guess going to the gym helps to vent out your…erm… frustrations and such. Also, if you work really, really hard you’ll be too tired to even think about doing anything else
Okay, what’s up with the car analogies?!
Re: Nikkah ho gaya... but...
If she's on the same page as you, you should go to Italy!