so i am taken last month as some of you know, … but no shaadi or ruksati happened.. in a year time frame hopefully..
she is back to firenze and i am in ny.. but now the problem is that.. i can’t wait for the night .. you know the night i am talking about. .right.. yeh… that one
… ^^ anyway that’s just my ramblings…
the actual point is how to manage long distance relationship.. ..
yes we talk on the phone for more then 2 hours a day… day chat is going, silly status messages on facebook + video conferencing.. but still their is something .. which i can’t explain..
i was planning to go to Italy for few days this month,. .but dad/mom get the hint of my actual program so they ban the entry in whole European continent
i mean i still go to bed with pillow. …@.. it’s frustrating … i waited 25 years for this.. .. and can’t wait anymore. .then year.. time frame . .looks like a freaking centuries away.. … on top of that all these activities loosing the momentum..
so guppies some ideas to get busy my ass and her too … yeeeeh
I think you should have the rukhsati done in italy, you go there when you get time and spend time with her, and after a year you can bring her back here.
Ur married, Yet because you have no 'ruksati' you cant see your wife?............................................. Interesting... And theres me thinking a 'nikkah' back in the day meant ur married. Oh well nevermind. Im sure a few more days wont harm you if you waited 25years. I mean how would you know the difference?
^^ sometimes culture is good ..in this case .. the main reason that rukhsati is left is usually because of financial status of families .. cos once the rukhsati is done .. a walima is a must (islamically) ..and usually the walimah is to annouce the marraige to the rest of the ppl and invite guests to celebrate happiness..so this usualy costs money .. plus when rukhsati is done .. the family of the gurl wana give jahez :@: .. and by leaving rukhsati at a leter stage gives the family oppertunity to get something togeather ..and one final reason sometimes is that the family wants to spend sme quality time with her familyy as a Married person ..before she goes away for good .. in someone eles company.
so delaying rukhsati does have possitives .. plus if its an arranged marriage ..then the time between rukhsati and nikah .. gives you alot of insight to what marriage really is and how its supposed to work .. you get alot of your ''responsibilities' in order i.e. lets say some guy usually goes clubbing lol but now hes got stop ..unless his new wifes into to clubbing tooo lol .. but its all for the good reasons..so no one shud realy be against it ..
however, not teasing anyone but i had my nikah and rukhsati and walimah altogeather...yeh its a pluss .. but i ve had to wait as i live in Uk and shes in pak ..long distance and i ve been to pak occasionally bt u learn to manage andd oraganise yourself..and finally the moment is coming close that in a month n half or so she ll be here too .. so waiting does pay off ..
ps. like someone said .. the way your feeling ... maybe shes feeling the same .. its normaly a two way traffic ...so think about her too ..
eh, even if they are (as in a period between when you get married and when you actually start playing house together), no one has the right to stop you seeing each other and doing your business. it's that mentality that needs sorting out.
I wouldn’t be comfortable conducting any “business” (oo, what a crude way of putting it…), between nikkah and rukhsati, because in my humble opinion, no dude is getting ahold of any of this (rubs hands over her body) unless he is willing to pay my bills, kill lizards that get into my home, warm up some soup if I get sick, start preparing food if I’m going to be late coming home, get yummy take-out for me on my ladies’ days, give me a massage when I’ve had a crappy day at work or when my spine is acting up, willing to spend time with me by being a shopping buddy so I’m not alone while I look for skin cremes , and is willing to change our water heater.
Hey. You can play after you’ve worked. No girl should be giving anything out for free.
On a serious note, what sometimes happens is that the girl loses her virginity (or loses it for a second time or a third time), all of which is an emotional landmark in a woman’s life, and then the guy dips out and there is a divorce even before any rukhsati is completed.
I don’t know about others, but if that happened to me, I’d feel like a used whore. That feeling sucks.
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.. you know the night i am talking about. .right.. yeh… that one 
@.. it’s frustrating … i waited 25 years for this.. .. and can’t wait anymore. .then year.. time frame . .looks like a freaking centuries away..
… on top of that all these activities loosing the momentum..
, and is willing to change our water heater.