Witch, although I commend you on what you have written in the above quote, I do not agree with the last sentence. I have been married for 2 years now and I can honestly say that I would do anything for my in-laws. (Alhamdulilah) I can also say that my husband would and does everything he can for my family. We treat each others families as our own. (Alhamdulilah) There is no "his parents" or "her parents", but rather OUR parents. It's all about the mindset, having a big heart and giving the benefit of the doubt.
I have to agree with amana. Malaysian grooms do move in with their in-laws for few months. Once everyone is satisfied and have gotten to know him very well then couple decides if they want to live in separate house. This is the norm in Malaysia and Brunie, learned that after living there for 3.5 years.
Question its a bit of a side question but I have been told by some that an Nikah is the same as a court marriage, I personally dont think it sounds right but can somebody confirm?