Nikkah and Rukhsati

[fairywings85]

Re: Nikkah and Rukhsati

@paliz654654

actully wat seems strange to u is abt ur pakistani culture to be engaged then after times nikah& rukhsati is same time…

to be honest its strange for me how u trust u put any name on u be4 nikah? wat if breaks? actully engegment makes no sence for me …may same reason that i see in my own cultural view…

im married abt 2 years ago & still im in nikah & inshallah this march will be my wedding (as u say rukhsati) in my country then walima in pakistan, i see pakistanies take risks in name of engamment that may breaks anytime realy easier than nikah…

for us when proposal comes we think abt it & talk with guy(depend on family) then when we accept guy we go for nikah…then wedding will be when both can settel well & go their own home as there is no joint family system so u have to make more money..
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gap between can be 3month even to 3-4 years depend on situation(same abt ur engament may take time)…but in nikah time u r more relx with hubby u can comnuicate(sleeping or not is diffrent from area to area) but atleast in wedding night u will not be shocked to sleep with a strange man!!!

i cant imagin i would be engaged then after nikah straitly i go to his home!

living in nikah time(if u mean sleeping) can handle by women as according islam for first relation husband doesnt have right to start its depend on wife’s permision so in islamic point of view if ur husband supouse to have his relation after wedding not after nikah its ok…

I understand the point that an engagement is not the same as a nikkah…i really understand that…i’m just curious as to why you don’t live together?

my point simply is…why is there such a thing as a rukhsati? its something placed on us by culture. nikkah is the REAL thing…i just do not get it

@tipusulatn

Actually i was seriously thinking about same question due to my daughter, although she is engaged, but since he is not yet settled down i am not prepare to marry them yet.

He is thinking to visit here and explore business or any other opportunities, in that case putting him up at hotel for extended period of time would be expensive for him, I am toying with the idea to just do a nikah for them (delay official Rukhsati for while), in this case he could stay at our place comfortably.

Since they are officially married, they also have freedom to going out together without anyone bothering.

I do not mean to sound crude or anything but if they have their nikkah etc they will live as husband and wife so is there a need for them to also have a rukhsati some time later?