Nikah

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So the Nikah is mostly done before the bride is brought out on the day of the barat right? The nikah is done, papers are signed and than the bride is brought into the hall… orrrrrrrr is the bride brought in, and than the Nikah is done?

And married ladies, what did it feel like to walk down the aisle… does everyone get all quiet?? I know their is music in the background but do you hear the music or the silence with all the eyes on you?

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In our family Nikah is done on mehandi day after mehandi function...

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I want the Nikah to be done on the barat day. I dont think i will ok with being islamically married, and than going back to my own house. I want to live with my hubby as soon as we are married.

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The only type of Nikkahs I have seen - is where both the bride and groom have made their separate entrances to come sit up on the stage. The moulvi saab is already sitting up there before their arrival. Nikkah papers are signed first and is immediately followed by the wedding bands being exchanged. Maulvi then gives a little speech about the importance of marriage in islam and such related topics, after this.

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PR- So the bride comes in and than the Nikah is done?

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i have seen three different types of nikah's,
1. at the masjid - boys and girls are of course separate
2. at the stage...where both are sitting at the stage and the nikah is done front of all the guest.
3. Groom at the stage and the bride in a dressing room (at the hall)...the bride makes her entrance after the nikah.

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Hmmm I kinda wanna be there during the nikah.

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I m confused how i wuld want mine...i dont want to say i do front of 350 ppl but thn i want to be sitting next to him when i say it.

But it really doesn't matter for me...cuz because of the timing change (the hall have to shut down by 10 in lahore)...we are doing the nikah at the mayou iA.

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I definitely want mine done in front of everyone sitting next time him.

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my bhai's nikkah was done at the masjid. Imam asked both bride and groom to sit in the same room (main prayer room) men on one side with the groom and women on the other side with bride. the nikkah was done infront of everyone followed by Khutba.
when my baaj's nikah was done at the masjid (11 years ago) they were both in different rooms .. i guess things have changed since than..
I personally like the idea of having nikah done at the masjid.. i want is at masjid but he wants it at barat infront of everyone.. lets say who gets their way ;)

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I want mine in front of everyone at the barat.

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We do #3 in my family and I love it like that and how all the men come up and hug the groom, it always makes me teary-eyed. I remember watching my parents' wedding movie and when everyone came to hug my dad, it made me all teary-eyed looking at him w/ a big grin on his face. My parents got married in '90 so it's kinda recent.

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Desi Beauty - Yes: Bride comes in and then the Nikkah takes place. The bride and groom sit next to each other.

I like the idea of having the Nikkah take place of everyone at the baraat reception. This is the main event ..... and guests should be invited so that they are witnessing such an important thing. Anyone you do NOT feel comfortable witnessing this ...well they shouldn't be invited to your wedding in the first place. We put so much emphasis on other elements of the wedding... rasams... naach/gaana ... khanna... etc. When actually the actual moment/time of Nikkah should be the most important one with the most emphasis placed on it. It should be the major part of your wedding.

I think it is beautiful when I hear a bride and groom say their dua and acceptance of the marriage. I get teary eyed all the time... because I know that it is such a special moment that I was just able to witness.

I also think its important for kids to see a nikkah take place and hear the kutbah. It has become way too common where people in general have come to think of a shaadi simply as a place where you get some free food and get your dance on. Kids definietly think this. They should definietly be exposed to this important element of a muslim wedding. (By kids I mean older ones..... not the little kiddies who dont really understand where they are and why they are there).

Just my personal opinion :)

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Definitely a family get to gether at the Nikkah thingy but for us in UAE, we have to go to court get the Nikkah done there, then after you can do all the rasms and stuff

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i thought so too but in Dubai you can get it done at your house!
you have to pay 500dhs though, and it's all legal lol don't worry!!

the ones on stage etc aren't allowed but at home it is, my friends getting married in 2 weeks with her nikkah at her house, will find out for you the exact procedure :)

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thats good if its happening now....

i got married 5 yrs back :)

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oh really, my sister got married 3 years ago in Dubai and her nikkah was at home too!

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I thinks its much better to have it done before barat day...on mehndi is a good option

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Please do share the nikah procedure in Dubai/ Sharjah. My nikah will also most probably gonna happen in UAE and I heard that it is only done in the court. If it can be done at home, it might only be done in the day times (court working times and not in the evenings).

If home option is available, I really cant figure out which one is better (at court or at home). We do not want to have a ceremony for nikah if it is done at home as we will be giving a reception soon. Also, as you all know, the apartments are very small in UAE so we cannot manage to invite a lot of people for the nikah. So court option seems good. But I wonder how a bride (although not dressed in heavy bridals) would feel comfortable going all the way to the court and sign the nikah papers.

Also, plz confirm whether the groom has to pay the meher on spot in UAE or he can pay later.

Thanks

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hi ashy2010

i think the home option is better because it's more personal,
what we did for my sisters which was at home in Dubai, we had it just before asr, the men were in the living room, and the women in my sisters room, just close family and a couple of friends, my bro-in-law signed in the living room, my sis in her room, everyone cried and hugged, then all the women went to the dining room and everyone there made a du'a, and then exchanged gifts,
it was really nice, i find the whole court thing weird, too daunting and impersonal!

i will find out the technical details and let you know :)