Re: …Nikah vs. Engagement…
Ok. So I did know that Nikah halalifies the relationship but what I am confused about is this: Once you have married (nikah done), why doesn’t she come start living with the guy. Or in other words, why can’t they have sex? If they are concerned about how the guy is not stable yet and he has to finish his studies or the girl has to finish her studies, then why are you getting Nikah done? 
Just don’t have anything done until you are really ready. So is rukhsati something that desis made up? Isn’t the Islamic proper or preferred way to get nikah done and then move in and consumate the marriage?
Funny thing about this Nikah-but-not-rukhsati thing is what happened to my friend. The girl’s family said that she’s becoming a doctor. They can get nikahified but can’t have children for 7 years until she finishes her studies I mean what the hell. Ofcourse the guy said no thank you. But what’s the point of nikah then if they can’t ‘consumate’ the wedding? Just marry someone else.