nikah validity..

[krmaml1]

Re: nikah validity..

@cpa2011

why would you tell him about your past? You know how pakistani guys are, actually all guys in general, NEVER NEVER NEVER tell them about ur past, even if its just “oh I liked this actor on tv” Dont say that. Pakistani guys can’t accept that girls can make mistakes, or that girls are human and could crush on a guy. Also, why would you have pictures like that on fb anyway, take them off. Ofcourse he tricked you, all guys say that oh whatever your past was, I don’t care it was your past. Then you tell them something, and they hold it agaist you for 10 years. Everyone has a cousin who has gotten tricked like that. Anyway, this guy seems like a jerk, but don’t break it off just yet. Think about it carefully, yes your a doctor, but you 27/28, and you have Nikha, so in Pakistani eyes, divorce is divorce. Look maybe ur lucky and you find someone much better, but there is a possiblity that you may not, and your your going to get older…

Anyway the guy ignoring you and stuff for a couple of days and now being mean again. I’ve been in the same situation. Your in a relationship, Men like to hold control. Your the one calling him to Germany, you have a good job, good pay. He feels infirior. he wants to make you like run after him all the time. Put ur ego aside, and think rationally. If he is a good guy, professional, good job, reasonably decent, then call him up and tell him you want it to work out, and you only liked someone, you never did anything, and all girls daydream about getting married and stuff. I mean I know kids in kindergarden that think about getting married, there not doing anything, its just kid stuff. As for the pictures on fb, tell him they were gay, or tell him they were just friends. Obviously if it was some affair, you wouldn’t put them on fb, expecially knowing that he could see it. Tell him you love him a lot, and want to make it work.

TO ANY GIRL READING THIS, DON’T EVER TELL ANY MUSLIM GUY UR PAST, REGARDING ANY GUY. TELL HIM UR PARENTS ARE VERY STRICT AND YOU DIDN’T HAVE TIME TO WORRY ABOUT GUYS. I DONT CARE HOW MODERN OR CAREFREE THE GUY IS, HE’S NOT GOING TO BE HAPPY ABOUT IT AND WILL THINK THAT YOU DID LIKE THE WORST STUFF POSSIBLE. DONT AIR OUT UR DIRTY LAUNDRY

@Twinklestar

Hope everything works out for you! But you simply cannot think and act western when you are married to Pakistani guy. Please don’t leave any pics of any guys on fb including cousins. There are tons of ppl who browse thru Facebook accounts for fun and come up with conclusions. Never ever tell any guy that you loved, liked or were interested in any other guy. It’s a simple no no.

@ameeraf

Don’t tell him about your past crush. It’s a waste to tell your future spouse anything related to your social life. You should have lied. Said something along the lines of ‘I didn’t have time for men’ or something to that effect. Pakistani men want control. Over you, your life, your social life and probably also your social calendar.

There is a simple solution to this. Tell a guy youre supposed to marry about your past, in the earliest stage of the rishta process, if he freaks out, then you obviously deserve better than him. No? You call these men narrow minded, suspicious, jealous, control freaks and youre desperate to marry them at the same time. How ironic.

More importantly, I dont understand why do women who have had affairs in the past want to marry guys who havent had any of their own. The last time I checked inexperienced virgin losers were looked down upon by women. Why would you want to be with a guy who cannot even get laid in this day and age? Lol ! You should marry men with plenty of experience. Women love men with experience. Those men are also likely to be much more broad minded.